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Test Your Etiquette
Traditionally, how should men and
women take their seats in a
restaurant or at a dinner party?
• Men remain standing until women are seated.
• Women and men take turns one by one; first a
woman sits, then a man.
• Everyone stands and waits for the host to be
seated. Then, all sit.
Men remain standing until women
are seated.
• "Traditionally, men remain standing until
women are seated. This is an especially nice
gesture when guests are of different
generations, such as grandsons showing
courtesy and respect to their grandmothers.
Men assist women with their chairs unless the
waiter or host does."
When eating soup, how do you
spoon?
• Stick the spoon in and pull it towards you.
• Dip the spoon in the soup and move it
horizontally across the bowl.
• Spoon away from you.
Spoon away from you.
• "Spoon away from you. Place a plate under
the soup plate or bowl as the service plate. If
space allows, place the spoon on the plate
when you are talking."
Following American style, where do
you place your knife and fork during
the meal?
• On the tablecloth, on either side of the plate.
• The knife lies across the back of the plate and the
handle of the fork rests on the rim, with the tines
of the fork resting on the inside of the plate.
• They sit next to each other, on the tablecloth, on
the right side of your plate.
The knife lies across the back of the
plate and the handle of the fork rests
on the rim, with the tines of the fork
resting on the inside of the plate.
• "Although there are variations of where and how
to lay the knife and fork during the meal, the
American style is accepted and easy to
remember: Lay the knife across the back of the
plate, slightly to the right, handle on the right
side. During the meal, lay the fork at an angle to
you, the handle on the rim."
At meals, when can you start eating?
• As soon as you are served.
• When the people on either side of you have
been served.
• After everyone is served.
After everyone is served.
• "Wait until everyone is served before starting
to eat in a private home or restaurant. For
family meals, the mother starts first. Guests
should wait for the hosts. No one should leave
the table until everyone is finished."
How should you share food in a
restaurant?
• Fill your fork or spoon and empty it on your
companion's bread-and-butter plate.
• Ask your companion to open his or her mouth,
and simply deposit the food.
• Pass your dish around and let people help
themselves.
• Place a morsel to taste on your bread-and-butter
plate and pass the plate to your companion.
Place a morsel to taste on your breadand-butter plate and pass the plate to
your companion.
• "To share food in a restaurant, carefully place a
small portion on your bread and butter plate
and pass it to your companion. In informal
situations with a spouse or close friend, a forkful
of food, carefully passed and not dripping, is fine.
Don't feel compelled to share food, and don't
press others into tasting all the dishes."
Why should you pat your lips with a
napkin before taking a sip of a
beverage?
• To avoid leaving a spot on the glass.
• As a signal to the server that your glass needs
filling.
• So your lips will look plump and buffed.
• To prevent crumbs from falling in your
beverage.
To avoid leaving a spot on the glass.
• "Pat your lips with your napkin before taking a
sip of a beverage to avoid leaving a spot on
the glass. Pat discreetly if you feel any food or
liquid on your lips."
At the end of the meal, what should
you do with your knife and fork to
signal that you have finished eating?
• Lay the knife and fork across your plate with
the handles at four o'clock.
• Place your utensils next to each other, on the
tablecloth, above your plate.
• Position your utensils on your plate so that the
knife and fork form an "X".
Lay the knife and fork across your
plate with the handles at four o'clock.
• "Lay the knife and fork across your plate with
the handles at four o'clock (think of a clock face)
to signal that you have finished eating. Make
conversation at the table until everyone has
finished eating. If the meal involved a soup
course, the spoon should be on the service plate,
not in the soup bowl. However, if this is awkward,
leave the spoon in the bowl or notice how other
diners are handling the situation."
In a formal table setting, what is a
charger?
• The proper name for a large serving tray.
• A large plate that sits under your plate or
bowl.
• The type of decorative folded napkin that
stands on your plate.
A large plate that sits under your
plate or bowl.
• "A large plate on a set table is a charger or
service plate. It stays on the table throughout
the meal unless removed with the soup
course."
When is it acceptable to put your
elbows on the table?
• Only between courses.
• While you are eating.
• Never.
Only between courses.
• Never say never. Contrary to popular belief,
elbows on the table is acceptable between
courses or after everyone has finished eating,
but never during the meal.
During the meal you need to visit the
restroom. What do you do?
• Announce to everyone, "I've gotta go to the toilet."
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Say, "Excuse me for a moment, I'll be right back."
• Say nothing -- just leave.
• Sit quietly and suffer until the meal is over.
Say, "Excuse me for a moment, I'll be
right back."
• Publicly announcing bodily functions is crass.
If you gotta go, you gotta go -- just leave with
the minimum amount of fuss. A quiet "Excuse
me for a moment, I'll be right back" is
sufficient.
When you are not eating, where do
you keep your hands?
• On your lap or resting on the table.
• In your pockets.
• Keep 'em busy. Drum a little tune with your
fingers.
On your lap or resting on the table
is ideal.
• If you place your hands on the table be sure
that your wrists are on the edge of the table
More Dining Etiquette
Talking with food in your mouth…
• Do not talk with your mouth full. The
important word here is ‘full’. If every diner
had to wait until their mouth was completely
empty, then conversation at the table would
be very sad indeed.
Do not chew food with your mouth
open:
• People that chew food with their mouth open
are not aware they are doing it. The next time
you eat, pay attention to whether you are
chewing with you mouth open. If you are,
please stop.
– Smacking and crunching. Eating as quietly as
possible is essential to good table manners.
Do not scarf down your food:
• Eat your food slowly and enjoy it. Give
yourself the opportunity to enjoy the
company of your dining companions.
Napkin Etiquette
• Unfolding the Napkin. Unfold your napkin in one smooth
motion without "snapping" or "shaking" it open.
– The size determines how you unfold a napkin in your lap.
• Large napkins provided at more formal dinners, are unfolded halfway.
• Smaller napkins are unfolded completely and cover the lap fully.
• Tucking the Napkin. Don't tuck a napkin into your collar,
between the buttons of your shirt, or in your belt.
• Using the Napkin. Use your napkin frequently during the
meal to blot or pat, not wipe, your lips. Blot your lips before
taking a drink of your beverage
“Whenever you excuse yourself from the
table, place your napkin in your chair. Just
leave it in loose folds, keeping any soiled parts
out of sight.
After the meal:
The napkin, whether paper or cloth, is placed
to the left of the place setting when you are
finished and about to leave the table. - See
more at:
http://www.etiquettedaily.com/2011/09/napki
n-nuances-correct-placement-of-the-napkinafter-a-meal/#sthash.JrqkVRFh.dpuf
Posture at the table
• Proper posture at the table is very important.
• To show that you're alert and engaged, don't
slouch.
• Make sure to sit up straight, with your arms
held near your body. Never hang your elbows
heavily on the table when at a formal dinner.
When to be excused...
• After finishing your meal, you should
remain at the table until everyone
else is finished.
Place setting
• Dinner plate: This is the "hub of the wheel" and is
usually the first thing to be set on the table. In
our illustration, the dinner plate would be placed
where the napkin is, with the napkin on top of
the plate.
• Two Forks: The forks are placed to the left of
the plate. The dinner fork, the larger of the
two forks, is used for the main course; the
smaller fork is used for a salad or an appetizer.
The forks are arranged according to when you
need to use them, following an "outside-in"
order.
• Napkin: The napkin is folded or put in a napkin
ring and placed either to the left of the forks
or on the center of the dinner plate.
Sometimes, a folded napkin is placed under
the forks.
• Dinner Knife: The dinner knife is set immediately
to the right of the plate, cutting edge facing
inward. (If the main course is meat, a steak knife
can take the place of the dinner knife.) At an
informal meal, the dinner knife may be used for
all courses, but a dirty knife should never be
placed on the table, place mat or tablecloth
• Spoons: Spoons go to the right of the knife. In
our illustration, soup is being served first, so
the soup spoon goes to the far (outside) right
of the dinner knife; the teaspoon or dessert
spoon, which will be used last, goes to the left
(inside) of the soup spoon, next to the dinner
knife.
• Glasses: Drinking glasses of any kind -- water,
wine, juice, iced tea -- are placed at the top
right of the dinner plate, above the knives and
spoons
OTHER RESOURCES
• http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/03/26/
guide-dining-etiquette-table-manners/
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YIj5Rt7b9I
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KaTIOxp7
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• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDTB7jsc
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