The Interpersonal Communicatin Book 11th Ed.
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CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 1)
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Chapter 8:
Conversational Messages
Conversation is an essential part of
interpersonal communication
Relatively informal social interaction
Roles of speaker and hearer are exchanged in
a nonautomatic fashion
All parties collaborate and manage
conversation
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 2)
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Principles of Conversation
1. The principle of process: conversation is a
five-stage developmental process
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 3)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
Stage One: Opening
Greeting
Phatic communication – small talk, establishes a
connection, opens channel for further talk
Sets tone of conversation
Opening references
Opening lines
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 4)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
Stage Two: Feedforward
Signals the nature of the conversation
Opens the channels of communication
Previews the message
Disclaims
Altercasts
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 5)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
Stage Three: Business
Substance or focus
Most conversations are goal directed
Taboo topics should be avoided by outsiders
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 6)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
Stage Four: Feedback
Reflect back on conversation
Signal that business is completed
Positive – negative
Person focused – message focused
Immediate – delayed
Low monitoring – high monitoring
Supportive – critical
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 7)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
Stage Five: Closing
The goodbye
Reveals how satisfied you are with conversation
Can be difficult and awkward
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 8)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
2. Principle of cooperation
Cooperation – you implicitly agree to try to
understand each other
Conversational maxims – general rules to follow
Quantity
Quality
Relation
Manner
Maxims vary culturally
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 9)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
3. Principle of politeness
Tact
Generosity
Approbation (praise)
Modesty
Agreement
Sympathy
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 10)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
4. Principle of dialogue
Monologue – one person speaks and the other
listens; no real interaction
Dialogue – two way interaction where both
participants are speaker and listener
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 11)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
5. Principle of turn taking
Verbal and nonverbal cues signal conversational
turns
Speaker cues
Turn-maintaining
Turn-yielding
Listener cues
Turn-requesting
Turn-denying
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 12)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
5. Principle of turn taking (cont.)
Backchanneling – communicate back to speaker
without taking over role of speaker
Acknowledgement tokens or overlaps
Functions
Interruptions
To take the stage
Gender differences
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 13)
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Principles of Conversation (cont.)
Self-disclosure – communicating information
about yourself that you usually keep hidden
Developing process
Disclosure changes as relationships change
Must be shared with another person; can’t
be intrapersonal
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 14)
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Conversational Disclosure:
Revealing Yourself
1. Influences on self-disclosure
Who you are
Culture
Gender
Listeners
Topic
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 15)
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Conversational Disclosure (cont.)
2. Rewards and dangers of self-disclosure
Rewards
Self-knowledge
Communication and relationship effectiveness
Physiological well-being
Dangers
Personal
Relational
Professional
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 16)
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Conversational Disclosure (cont.)
3. Guidelines for self-disclosure
Making self-disclosures
Appropriate motivations
Appropriate context
Disclose gradually
Without imposing burdens on yourself or others
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 17)
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Conversational Disclosure (cont.)
3. Guidelines for self-disclosure (cont.)
Facilitating and responding to disclosure
Effective and active listening
Support and reinforce the discloser
Be willing to reciprocate
Confidentiality
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 18)
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Conversational Disclosure (cont.)
3. Guidelines for self-disclosure (cont.)
Resisting pressure to disclose
Don’t be pushed
Be assertive
Delay a decision
Be indirect and change topics
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 19)
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Conversational Disclosure (cont.)
1. Small talk
Topics and contexts
Noncontroversial and innocuous
Brief
In-flight intimacy
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 20)
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Everyday Conversations
1. Small talk (cont.)
Guidelines
Be positive
Watch for leave-taking cues
Stress similarities
Be brief but elaborate
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 21)
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Everyday Conversations (cont.)
2. Excuses and apologies
Excuse – explanation designed to reduce
negative impact and maintain image
Types of excuses
I didn’t do it
It wasn’t so bad
Yes, but
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 22)
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Everyday Conversations (cont.)
2. Excuses and apologies (cont.)
Good and bad excuses (guidelines)
Understand and legitimize other’s feelings
Take responsibility
Acknowledge your own displeasure
Make it clear it won’t happen again
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 23)
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Everyday Conversations (cont.)
2. Excuses and apologies (cont.)
Apology – expression of regret for something you
did
Repair relationship
Repair reputation
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 24)
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Everyday Conversations (cont.)
2. Excuses and apologies (cont.)
Guidelines for apologizing
Admit wrongdoing
Be apologetic
Be specific
Express understanding
Assure it won’t happen again
Omit excuses
Don’t take the easy way out
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 25)
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Everyday Conversations (cont.)
3. Complimenting – praise, flattery
Backhanded compliment – insult masked as a
compliment
Guidelines for complimenting
Be real and honest
Moderation
Be totally complimentary
Specific
Be personal in your own feelings
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 26)
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Everyday Conversations (cont.)
3. Complimenting (cont.)
Guidelines for receiving
Don’t deny or minimize
Smile with eye contact
Say thank you
Explain why it’s important to you
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 27)
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Everyday Conversations (cont.)
3. Advice
Meta-advice – advice about advice
Explore options and choices
Seek expert advice
Delay a decision
Giving advice
Responding to advice
CH 8: Conversational Messages (slide 28)
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Everyday Conversations (cont.)