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“Success Comes in
Can’s not Can’ts!!”
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What are Values
How do we develop
them?
What is the
Decision Making
Model?
What are the
Trouble Rules?
What is a Value?
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Qualities, characteristics, or
ideas about which we feel
strongly.
Our values affect our decisions,
goals and behavior.
A belief or feeling that someone or
something is worthwhile.
 Values define what is of worth, what
is beneficial, and what is harmful
 Values are standards to guide your
action, judgments, and attitudes.
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Direction in Life
Values help us make important decisions!
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Values give direction and consistency to behavior.
Values help you know what to and not to make time for.
Values establish a relationship between you and the
world.
Values set the direction for one’s life.
Where do we get values?
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our homes,
school,
society,
friends,
TV,
church,
music,
books,
families,
culture,
employers,
time-period in which you were raised (70’s anti-establishment,
peace, individuality. 80’s money, prestige, don’t get caught,
etc. 90’s earth, green peace, health and fitness), etc.
Your age will greatly influence your values.
Different people and things influence you at
different ages:
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Ages 1-7 --- parents
Ages 8-13 --- teachers,
heroes (sports, rocks,
TV)
Ages 14-20 --- peers
(values because of peers
or peers because of
values?)
Ages 21+ your values
are established, but you
may test your values
from time to time.
Values and Behaviors:
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Happiness comes
from letting
values decide
your behavior
and goals.
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Values can
change over a
life-time as your
experiences
change your
view.
What are some Common Values
shared in Society?
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Trust
Honesty
Respect
Empathy
Courage
Kindness
Social Justice
Integrity
Freedom
Loyalty
So many more, the list goes on…………
Make Some Great Decisions with
your Values~~
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Give thought to the problem
Review your choices
Evaluate the benefits and
consequences of each choice
Assess and choose the best
choice (consider your values)
Think it over afterward
What are Trouble Rules?????
A set of questions you ask
yourself when making a difficult
decision to avoid getting into
trouble!
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Is it against the law?
Will someone in authority get
mad?
Could it cause harm?
Is it against my values?
If your answer is yes to any of
the trouble rules you should say
“NO”.
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Problem: State the problem that you are facing?
Choices: Show a minimum of 3
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Evaluate the benefits and consequences of each choice
(Show at least 2 per Choice)
Choice 1
 Bennefits
 Consequences
 Choice 2…
 Choice 3…
Assess and choose the best choice (consider your values & the
Trouble Rules)
Think it over afterward
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Show me What you Learned using the
GREAT Decision Making Model
You are at a party and your friend who drove you
continues to drink throughout the night. It is now
1:30 a.m. and you are tired and want to go home.
Most of your friends have already left the party.
Your friend who has been drinking all night offers
you a ride home. You are unsure about his sobriety
at this point. He seems really drunk. You can smell
the alcohol on his breath and he is slurring his
words. You don’t have a driver’s license. The party
is getting wilder and it doesn’t seem like you will be
able to safely “crash” there. What do you decide to
do?
Refusal Skills
There are three rules to remember:
 State your position.
 Suggest alternatives.
 Stand your ground.
Refusal Lines:
 Point out consequences
 Give a reason or excuse.
 Make a bail out plan with friends
 Say, “No, Thanks” and mean it.
 Make a joke out of it.
 Change the subject.
 Avoid Unhealthy Situations all together
Teens on Decisions….. Versus Adults
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Are more focused on possible benefits versus
costs
Are more susceptible to peer pressure
More impulsive
More focused on seeking fun
Accept flimsy evidence when they are biased
in favor of a topic
Take more risks when there is less adult
supervision
WE MUST LEARN TO THINK BEFORE
WE ACT!!
Additional Scenarios
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A friend offers a ride to you & and
other friend who are walking to the
beach. The car (not a van) already has 6
passengers. Without a ride you will
have a two mile walk to the beach.
Your best friend is mad at someone
from school and wants to sneak out late
one night to egg the person’s house.
Your best friend wants you to come too.
Additional Scenarios
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You have math class first period. Your
friend has it 4th period. He did not
study for the test today. He asks you
text message the answers to him.
Your friend says she does not have
enough money to buy a new pair of
jeans. She wants you to help her shop
lift the pants.