Skills that Build, Enhance or Maintain Self-Efficacy Week Nine

Topics

• Coping With Change • Happiness / Subjective Well Being • Emotional Intelligence

Re-Visiting the Definition of Self-Efficacy

• Self-Efficacy – Confidence in the functioning of my mind – Confidence in our ability to think, understand, learn, choose and make decisions – Confidence in our ability to cope with the basic challenges of life • Earning a living • Take independent care of oneself in the world • Able to function effectively in interactions with other human beings – Ability to bounce back and regenerate – Self-trust; Self-reliance – A disposition to expect success for our efforts

Coping With Change

• Resilience • Capacity • Exuberance • Mental Rehearsal

Happiness (a.k.a. Subjective Well Being) • RICH theory: The promotion of happiness – Resources – Intimacy – Competence – Health

Characteristics Of Those Who Experience High SWB • Independent • Self-confident • Decisive • Sociable • Personal warmth • Active • Optimistic

What Is Associated With SWB?

• Marriage – Marriage serves as a buffer against hardships of life, and provides economic and emotional support • Job satisfaction – Offers optimal levels of stimulation that people find pleasurable – source of positive social relationships – offers a sense of identity and meaning • Exercise – experience of success, personal growth – social interaction – endorphins

The SWB Triad

1. Commitment 2. Skill 3. Achievement • Main Sources Of Joy – relationships with friends – basic pleasures of food, drink and sex – success experiences – time spent in nature

Six Characteristics of Fulfilled People and Dreams 1.

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Fulfilled people understand the difference between the dream and its realization.

Fulfilled people understand that the size of the dream determines the size of the gap.

Fulfilled people keep dreaming while making the journey.

Fulfilled people appreciate each step forward in the journey.

Fulfilled people make new discoveries while living the gap.

Fulfilled people buy in to the natural law of balance: life is both good and bad.

from Put Your Dream to the Test by John C Maxwell

Emotional Intelligence

1. Emotional identification, perception and expression 2. Emotional facilitation of thought 3. Emotional understanding 4. Emotional management

Emotional Intelligence

1 . Emotional identification, perception and expression – The ability to perceive and identify emotions in faces, tone of voice, body language – The capacity for self-awareness: being aware of your own feelings as they are occurring – The capacity for emotional literacy. Being able to label specific feelings in yourself and others; being able to discuss emotions and communicate clearly and directly.

Emotional Intelligence

2. Emotional facilitation of thought – The ability to incorporate feelings into analysis, reasoning, problem solving and decision making – The potential of your feelings to guide you to what is important to think about

Emotional Intelligence

3. Emotional understanding – The ability to solve emotional problems – The ability to identify and understand the inter-relationships between emotions, thoughts and behavior. – For example, to see cause and effect relationships such as • how thoughts can affect emotions or • how emotions can affect thoughts, and • how your emotions can lead to the behavior in yourself and others. – The ability to understand the value of emotions to the survival of the species

Emotional Intelligence

4. Emotional management – The ability to take responsibility for one's own emotions and happiness – The ability to turn negative emotions into positive learning and growing opportunities – The ability to help others identify and benefit from their emotions