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So that’s how you do it! I was doing it all wrong. Put it in the mouth, not the ear! Next up: Nymphet_Lolita FetLife Handle: Nymphet_LolitaBratting Bratting – I've had a lot of practice FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita What is bratting in BDSM? Xeromag Glossary - BRAT: A submissive who may refuse to obey a dominant's commands, tease or taunt the dominant, or engage in other activity intended to provoke a response, often a punishment response. FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita What is bratting in BDSM? My Definition – BRAT: Someone who uses “creative disobedience” as either part of a negotiated scene or relationship that allows a “safe space” to break the rules FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita “Good” Bratting “PITA” Bratting Playful Flirtatious Respectful CONSENSUAL Hostile Annoying Malicious UNWANTED Defiant? Willful? There's a line – FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita There's a line – How to tell when it's been crossed? Possible responses to bratting that is crossing the line That “look” An annoyed swat or “behave” Using the brats full name FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita Love 'Em or Hate 'Em? FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita SAM – Smart Ass Masochist My Opinion – SAMs are a very particular sub-set of brats seeking a specific punishment response, often associated with brats who cross the line FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita Topping from the Bottom Bottom line – if it's negotiated it's not “topping from the bottom” If you don't like the brats behavior use real punishment to correct the behavior or address the behavior during negotiations or time-outs FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita Who are Brats? Typically thought of as “s” type (bottom/sub) Brats are frequently attention whores/sluts Can a “D” type be a brat? FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita Who are Brats? Tops Out-bratting your brat? Princess/Prince? Sadistic brat? I want a pony and I want it now! FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita Who Plays with Brats? Enjoy push/pull dynamic Sense of Humor Enjoy funishment and play Patient!!! Thick Skin FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita When to Brat? When it's negotiated as part of a scene or ongoing relationship dynamic Know your partner!! If it's not a good time for them then they will not be able to appreciate the brat's creativity and the “line” will move FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita Where to Brat? Public – may not be the best place to brat Semi-public (play space) – is it allowed? Is it tolerated? Will your partner be pleased or embarrassed with the behavior? Private – best place when you need to get your full-on brat-on FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita Why Brat? Because it's FUN and you and your partner enjoy it FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita How to Brat? Scenes that work well for bratting Consensual Non-Consent Predicaments Age Play (big/little, Daddy/girl, etc) Pet Play Switch Fights FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita How to Brat? Funishment versus Punishment Gives the brat the attention they are looking for and will encourage similar bratting in the future Examples: Spanking, playing, verbal volley, etc The brat must not like the punishment – can be very brat specific Examples: Silent treatment, time-outs, expressing disappointment, early bedtime, etc FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita How to Brat? Brat Tactics Incitement/Instigate Pranks Coy Puppy Eyes Loopholes FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita How to Brat? Channel The Inner 3-year Old FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita How to Brat? Tips for Communicating with a Brat Brats use their behavior to communicate their desires and intentions in a playful and charming way Listen to what you're brat is really saying Negotiate where the “line” is and when's it's gone too far Keep funishment and punishment separate Have fun!!! FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita Resources: Funishment: http://pleasepunish.me/ https://ladyaconite.wordpress.com/2009/10/04/for-every-samsmart-ass-masochist-there-is-one-rosreallyobnoxious-sadist/ Bratting: http://dominantguide.com/1525/the-brat-ownership-guide/ http://dominantguide.com/1535/out-bratting-the-brat/ http://msmargaretdavis.blogspot.com/2012/12/brat-please-explain.html?zx=27e346f03db252f3 http://www.biglittlepodcast.com/2011/04/episode-8-bratting/ https://sirstompsalot.wordpress.com/2011/10/12/regarding-brats/ http://www.takeninhand.com/in.defence.of.brats.everywhere http://clarissethorn.com/2011/11/12/bdsm-roles-topping-from-the-bottom-and-service-top/ http://www.notjustbitchy.com/topping-from-the-bottom/ Creative disobedience: http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/2011/07/07/the-educational-value-of-creative-disobedience/ http://www.science20.com/rogue_neuron/creativity_crime_passion http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Embrace-Your-Inner-Brat http://www.slideshare.net/andreakuszewski/bil-creative-disobedience3114akfinal FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita … or you could tie them up and then bratting isn’t an issue. Next up: KinkSpeed - Karaoke FetLife Handle: Nymphet_Lolita