Transcript Marriage Rites & Expectations

Marriage
Rites & Expectations
By Carlo Ammatuna, Woody Amidon,
Ian Fletcher & Will Jopling
Views of Marriage
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Judaism- Companionship, love and intimacy are
the primary purposes of marriage
Christianity- Marriage is a Holy sacrament that is
a permanent, life long promise between a man
and woman
Islam- Marriage is “mithaq” a solemn covenant,
a religious duty, a moral safeguard, and social
necessity
Premarital Sex in Judaism
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The Torah does not prohibit premarital sex
between a man and woman who can legally
marry
However, traditional Judaism strongly condemns
the irresponsibility of sex outside of marriage.
Premarital sex is considered to be improper and
immoral
Jewish law prohibits an unmarried, unrelated
man and woman from being alone long enough
to have sexual relations.
 These
laws come from the Talmud
Premarital Sex in Christianity
Sex outside of marriage goes against the
dignity of marriage
 The sexual act must take place exclusively
within marriage
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 1st
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Corinthians 7:8-9
Outside of marriage it always constitutes a
serious sin
Premarital Sex in Islam
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Supposed to guard your chastity
A believer is defined in Surah 23
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a believer is one who abstains from sex except with
those joined to them in marriage bond (and sexual
captives)
Islam does not approve of intimate mixing of the
sexes, forbids premarital sex
Mary was a devout servant, she guarded her
chastity
 Surah
21:91 & 66:12
Forbidden Marriage in Judaism &
Christianity
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The Torah/ Old Testament forbids the marriage
of
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close blood relatives
 the ex-wives of certain close blood relatives
 a woman who has not been validly divorced from her
previous husband
 the daughter or granddaughter of his ex-wife
 the sister of his ex-wife during the ex-wife's life time
Forbidden Marriage in Islam
Surah 4:23 says
 Cannot marry women against their will
 No marriage to close blood relatives
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aunts and uncles
This does not forbid marriage to cousins
Cannot marry one wives of your sons,
fathers, women who are already married
Marriage of Non- Believers:
Interfaith Marriage in Judaism
Traditional Judaism does not permit
interfaith marriages
 The more liberal branches of Judaism
have tried to embrace intermarried
couples
 Marriage to a non-Jew is not recognized
as "marriage" in Jewish law
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Marriage of Non- Believers:
Interfaith Marriage in Christianity
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The fact that someone is an unbeliever is
not a reason for not marrying, staying with
them
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Corinthians 7:12-14
The non believer becomes Holy through
the believer
Marriage of Non- Believers:
Interfaith Marriage in Islam
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Muslim men can marry non Muslim
women
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the understanding that she will convert to
Islam eventually
Muslim women cannot marry non Muslim
men
 Some contradictions
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 Surah
2:221
Marriage Ceremony in Judaism
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20-30 minutes consists of the kiddushin and the
nisuin
 Nisuin
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done under Chuppah
Kiddushin- the woman accepts the money,
contract or sexual relations offered by the
prospective husband.
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from the root Qof-Dalet-Shin
meaning "sanctified."
Nisuin- Completes the process of
marriage. The husband brings the wife
into his home and they begin their
married life together
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 (from
a word meaning "elevation")
Marriage Ceremony in Christianity
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Seating of the parents
Bridal procession
Wedding march
Opening remarks
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Giving away of the bride
Wedding vows, exchanging of the rings
Communion
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The call to worship
Opening Prayer
The first act as a married couple
The closing prayer
The kiss and presentation of the couple
Marriage Ceremony in Islam
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Exchanging of peace
A profession of faith
A lot of readings about Allah regarding marriage
State Allah as a witness to the marriage
Bride and groom agree to dowry
Both accept each other
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Sign contract of the marriage and dowry
Two witnesses of the marriage sign the contract
Followed by exchanging of rings
More readings: about the meaning of
marriage
 Congratulations
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Equality in Marriage in Judaism
Both parties must voluntarily agree on
marriage
 Marriage must include Ketubah
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 From
the Hebrew verb “to write”
 A marriage contract
Equality in Marriage in Christianity
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Ephesians 5:22
 Women
are subordinate to husbands
“Husbands should love their wives as their
own bodies. He who loves his wife loves
himself.” Ephesians 5:28
 Equality has progressed a lot over time
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Equality in Marriage in Islam
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Husbands are the head of the family
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terms of finance and decision making
Surah 4: 34 suggests men take care of
their wives but can also physically punish
them
 Muslim men and woman are spiritually and
intellectually equal
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Meaning of polygamy
Group Discussion
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Based on what we have talked about so
far, discuss which religion comes closest
to attaining equality in marriage and which
is the furthest away?
Adultery
In Judaism it is forbidden by the Ten
Commandments
 In Christianity, still forbidden by Ten
Commandments
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 Jesus
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grants forgiveness John 8:1-11
In Islam, referred to as “Zina”
 Punishment
is stoning to death (for women)
 Repent, Amend no punishment (for men)
Divorce
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Judaism has always accepted divorce
 Allowed
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by the words of Moses
In Christianity divorce is very sinful
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is the separation of one flesh that was conjoined by
God and no human is able to break that bond
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In Islam divorce is permitted with a settlement
between a man and the woman
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unfair to the woman financially
 Of all things permitted, most hateful to Allah
Worksheets
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Question 3
Based on the assigned Surahs, what does
the Qur’an say about marriage of people
who do not believe in Allah? What about
marriage between Muslims and the
“People of the Book” (Jews and
Christians)?