Transcript Neighbours, Friends and Families Introductory Training

Neighbours, Friends
& Families
at Work
A Program of the Centre for Research & Education
on Violence Against Women & Children
Faculty of Education, University of Western Ontario
delivered through collaborations with
community–based NFF Champions
The Campaign
Neighbours, Friends and Families is managed by
the Centre for Research and Education on Violence
Against Women and Children. It was developed by
an Expert Panel. The Ontario Government funds the
campaign.
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Purpose
Neighbours, Friends and Families is a
campaign to raise awareness of
THE SIGNS OF WOMAN ABUSE
so that people who are close to an at-risk
woman or abusive man can help.
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Domestic Violence – 3 Types
Situational couple violence
• most common / arguments escalate to violence
Intimate terrorism / battering
• abusive partner controls and coerces
Violent Resistance
• victim of intimate terrorism fights back
Johnson / CLASP – 2006
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Domestic Violence – 3 Types
Situational couple violence
• most common / arguments escalate to violence
Woman Abuse
Intimate
terrorism / battering
• abusive partner controls and coerces
Violent Resistance
• victim of intimate terrorism fights back
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Why Focus on Woman Abuse?
• Highest risk cases
• Most serious injuries
• Preventable
• Impact on children is devastating
• Can’t change what you can’t name
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Statistics
Ontario Death Reviews - All cases from
2002-2005
94% of violent perpetrators were male
Domestic Violence Death Review Committee
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Statistics
15 women were killed in Ontario by abusive
partners in 2008
In the past 10 years, over 200 women have
been killed in Ontario
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Domestic Violence – 3 Types
• All are harmful
• All are potentially dangerous
• All need intervention – different kinds
• All create victims who need support
What Does Woman Abuse
Look Like?
Patterns of Abuse – ongoing, systematic
to control and dominate a woman
Can be:
Physical / Sexual / Psychological or Emotional /
Religious / Economic
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NFF – “Model Program”
The Domestic Violence Death Review Committee
…the greatest need continues to be educating all
members of the community about the warning
signs of domestic violence and the appropriate
action necessary to prevent it.
One example…is the Neighbours, Friends and
Families Campaign.
(DVDRC 2005)
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NFF – “Model Program”
Dupont / Daniel Inquest - Recommendations
“to provide support to all workplaces to train all employees
about the dynamics of domestic violence….as well as what
to do if faced with a situation where violence enters the
workplace
…model programs such as Neighbours, Friends and
Families may be expanded in Ontario and be more directly
inclusive of the role of the workplace”.
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A Common Misconception:
Woman abuse is a private issue
In Canada, woman abuse in the workplace has
been invisible
The tragic death of Lori Dupont has awakened
us to the fact that it is a workplace issue
Critical Events and Opportunities
• Critical Events
• Visible warning signs and risk factors
• Should raise possibility of danger
• Opportunities
• A chance to intervene
• Can be missed because of uncertainty or
missing information
• Organizations and individuals are unprepared
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Opportunity
Workplace Implications
Significant human and economic costs
• Measurable costs - $4 billion+ / yr (partial costs)
• $1B+ traced to time away from work
Corporate leadership in the United States
• Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence
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Centre for Research & Education on Violence Against Women and Children
Domestic Violence Prevention: A Workplace Initiative
Workplace Implications
• Happen across all social classes
• 37% of men in a perpetrators program are
white collar workers
• professionals, administrators, managers
• 74% of victims are harassed while at work,
which puts themselves and all people
present at the workplace at risk
Gandolf 2002
Zachary 2000
Workplace Implications
The danger of stalking & psychological abuse
• 76% of women murdered were stalked
by their intimate partners in the year prior
to murder
• 11–24% of all stalking cases actually
begin in the workplace
• 87% of stalkers are male
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National Stalking Resource Center
Kong, 1997; Pathe et al., 2000
Perpetrator Interference
Behaviours and Actions
He may prevent her from getting to work or,
interfere with her ability to work:
• Place repeated phone calls
• Stalk and/or watch her while she is at work
• Show up and pester her co-workers with
questions (where is she, who she’s with, when
will she be back, etc.)
Why Workplaces Need to Be Involved
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Most workplaces are unprepared
Many employees are affected directly and
indirectly
Multiple concerns such as security, health,
performance, productivity
In 9 out of 10 workplace incidents, the victim later
confides in a co-worker
Employers & co-workers can make a difference
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Stats Canada 2004
Why Workplaces Need to Be Involved
Perpetrators choose her workplace as a means to
access her because often this is a factor in her life
that remains unchanged and predictable.
Even if she has changed residences to isolate herself
from the perpetrator, she may still experience the
negative actions at work.
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Zachary 2000
Recognizing the Signs
The victim may:
• Have bruising that cannot be explained
• Miss work on a regular basis or seem to be sick
more often
• Be sad, lonely, withdrawn and afraid
• Have trouble concentrating on a task
• Receive upsetting phone calls
• Use alcohol or drugs to cope
Lived Experience
Documentary
“What everyone should know about
woman abuse.”
View the DVD on-line at:
www.cmPlaylister.com/nff
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How Can I Support Her?
Examples:
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Talk to her about what
you see and assure her
that you are concerned
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Tell her you believe her
and that it is not her fault
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Provide information about
safety
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Understanding the Traps
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History of abuse – grew up in abusive home
Afraid to be on her own
Blames herself for the abuse
Economic uncertainty - poverty
She loves him – believes he can change
She doesn’t want to move the children
Pressure from her family
Cultural norms that don’t permit divorce
Safety Planning for Women
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Developing a Safety plan
Getting Ready to Leave
Leaving the Abuser
After Leaving
Referral Information:
The Assaulted Women’s Helpline,
and other women’s services in your
area
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Assaulted Women’s Helpline
• 24-hour telephone support and crisis line
• Anonymous and confidential
• Available in many languages
Local Resources
What Can I Say?
When someone you care about is acting abusively:
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Approach him when he is calm
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Tell him that you are concerned for
the safety of his partner and children
and that there is help for him
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Recognize that confrontational,
argumentative approaches may
make the situation worse and put her
at higher risk
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Brochures & Safety Cards
Available in:
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English
Farsi
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Punjabi Indian
Punjabi Pakistani
Russian
Somali
Spanish
Tamil
Vietnamese
Neighbours, Friends & Families
Website
www.neighboursfriendsandfamilies.ca
www.kanawayhitowin.ca
www.voisinsamisetfamilles.ca
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What Can I Do?
Know the Rule of Isolation
Isolation is a factor that is always present in
situations of woman abuse
…It could even be considered a necessary
condition
As the abuse escalates – the isolation
becomes more profound
Behaviours Designed to
Interrupt Isolation
1. Pay attention to signs of abuse
2. Don’t sit alone with suspicions and
questions
3. Seek help and take appropriate action
SEE IT – NAME IT – CHECK IT
How do we prepare ourselves?
Start with Heart
You can’t go wrong if you intervene
from a place of genuine concern
and care…
Becoming A Workplace Champion
Three Levels of Involvement
Level 1: Introduce campaign and materials
to all employees
Level 2: Presentations & Workshops
Level 3: Train the Trainer
For more information on the workplace program contact
Barb MacQuarrie at [email protected]
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How it Works
Engaging The Potential and Power of Everyday Relationships
Relatives
Friends
Co-Workers
YOU
Neighbours
Committees
Manager
YOU
Final Thoughts
There are no simple solutions – leaving an abusive
partner is more of a process than an event.
Caring about the people around us, paying
attention to them when there are signs of
trouble can be the most important intervention
we can make.
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Neighbours, Friends and Families
Most Ontarians feel a personal responsibility
for reducing woman abuse...
recognizing it is the first step
Take the warning signs seriously
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