Transcript Discipline, Rewards and Punishment

Needs, Empathy and
Nurturing Self (Needs Work)
Nurturing Parenting
Section 5.2
GOAL
To understand the relationship between
needs, empathy and nurturing one’s self
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OBJECTIVES
To Increase Parents’ Understanding of the
Concepts of Natural and logical
Consequences.
To Increase Parents’ Understanding of
Rewards as a Parenting Strategy.
To Increase Parents’ Understanding of
Punishment as a Parenting Strategy.
To Increase Parents’ Ability to Implement an
Effective Program of Discipline in Their Home.
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Let’s Watch a Movie
“Discipline, Rewards
and Punishments”
Part A
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Provide Useable Definition for
Each Concept
Family Morals
Family Values
Family Rules
Discipline
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Definitions
Family Morals – Morals constitute what
people believe are right and wrong actions of
behavior. Example: It’s wrong to shoplift, it’s
right to pay for things.
Family Values – Practices and beliefs that are
valued through modeling and direct
experiences. Exp.: Parents value nonviolence and use alternatives to spanking.
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Definitions (Cont.)
Family Rules – Morals and values that are
operationalized into a set of observable,
doable behaviors. Example: Do put clean
cloths in the dresser drawer, don’t leave clean
clothes stacked on the chair.
Discipline – Having a set of fair and
reasonable standards and expectations for
everyone to follow. Discipline includes moral,
values, rules, cultural traditions, and
expectations, and the fun and joy of being a
family.
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For Discipline to have value,
consequences must follow as a
means of reinforcing the
standards or expectations.
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For every action there is a
reaction
“If” is the child’s behavior and the “then
is the parent’s response.
When a child performs a behavior, a
response indicates to the child to learn
that the behavior was either good or
bad (morals).
The response to the behavior is called a
“consequences”
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The primary function of a consequences is
to help the child learn right from wrong.
A consequence for desirable behavior is called
a “Reward”.
A consequence for an undesirable behavior is
called a “Punishment”.
Rewards let children know their behavior is
desirable and should continue.
Punishments let children know their behavior
is undesirable and should stop and be
replaced with desirable behavior.
If there is no consequence, then the child is
left feeling uncertain; not knowing if the
behavior was good or bad.
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The benefit of Consequences
are:
They help teach children right from wrong.
They help children develop a strong moral
code to follow.
They help children learn to make good,
healthy choices.
They help children feel successful in following
the rules and pleasing their parents.
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There are two kinds of
consequences: natural and logical.
Natural consequences happen all by
them selves – there are no direct
planning.
Examples include: walking in the rain
without an umbrella and getting wet,
eating excessively and gaining weight,
touching fire and getting burned.
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Logical Consequences are
planned and thought out.
Some examples include: time-out for
misbehavior, losing weight when dieting,
increasing self-esteem when praising.
Good discipline involves helping children learn
right from wrong by providing non-abusive,
nurturing consequences for appropriate and
inappropriate behavior.
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Let’s Watch a Movie
“Discipline, Rewards
and Punishments”
Part B
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Rewards
A Reward is a consequence for
desirable behavior.
There are two types of rewards.
Tangible and intangible.
Tangible rewards are things.
Intangible rewards are privileges and
feelings.
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What are some Tangible and
Intangible rewards that you
can give your child?
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Tangible versus Intangible
What are the benefits and dangers of giving
children only tangible rewards such as toys,
money, etc. when they do something good?
What are the benefits and dangers of giving
children only intangible rewards such as
compliments, praise, allow to stay up late,
etc. when they do something good?
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Five Types of Rewards as
Consequences for Disable Behavior
Praise – words that are given to
recognize a child’s good behavior.
Touch – gentle touch like massages,
hugs, back rubs, gently touching an
arm or shoulder.
Privileges – bonuses awarded for
desirable behavior such as staying up
past bedtime, extra playing time, etc.
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Five Types of Rewards as Consequences
for Disable Behavior (cont.)
Objects – toys, stickers, paints.
Allowance – a logical reward for tasks
complete. The functional purpose of
allowance is to teach money
management, and should be used by
older children.
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