Transcript Wild At Heart Chapter 3

Wild At Heart
Chapter 10
• A strong man coming to rescue a beautiful
woman is universal to human nature. It is
written in our hearts, one of the core desires
of every man and every woman.
• Jon and Stasi’s story 181
• Why do most of us get lost somewhere
between “once upon a time” and “happily
ever after”
• Most passionate romances seem to end up with
evenings in front of the TV.
• What went wrong with our fairy tale:
– None of us really ever thought the enemy was real
(sorcerer, dragon,…) we thought we could have her
without a fight and that the biggest battle was
asking her out.
– We have also not realized she is in a damsel in
distress (wounded)
• Eve is the crown of creation, she embodies the
exquisite beauty and exotic mystery of God.
And she is a special target fot the Evil One.
• He turns his most vicious malice towards her.
• If he can destroy her or keep her captive, he can
ruin the story.
Eve’s Wound 182
• Some women’s wounds came with violence and
others with neglect.
• She is haunted by the questions:
– Am I lovely?
– Will you pursue me?
– Do you delight in me?
– Will you fight for me?
• Every woman needs to know she is exquisite,
exotic and chosen
• She has been wounded and heard, “you are not
beautiful and no one will really fight for you”
• Like many of the men’s wounds their wounds
come at the hand of her father.
• A little girl looks to her father to know if she is
lovely.
• The power he has to cripple or bless is just as
significant to her as it is to his son.
• Violent fathers Janet’s story183
• Passive fathers Stasi’s story183
• John and Stasi’s story revisited 184
• The number one problem between men and their
women is that when we men, when asked to truly
fight for her…….hesitate.
• We are still seeking to save ourselves.
• We have forgotten the deep pleasure of spilling
our life for another.
Offering our strength 184
• Proverbs 30:18-19
• A different look at sex:
• The man comes to offer his strength and the
woman invites the man into herself, an act that
requires courage and vulnerability and
selflessness for both of them.
• The beauty of a woman arouses and man to play
the man; the strength of the man, offered tenderly
to his woman, allows her to be beautiful, it brings
life to her and to many.
• The same is true on how we offer her our words
• “Life and death in the power of the tongue”
Proverbs 18:21
• John’s words to Stasi 185
• If a man refuses to offer himself , then his wife
will remain empty and barren.
• A violent man destroys with his words.
• A passive (silent) man starves his wife.
• John’s friend’s new bride 186
• We are called to sacrifice our strength for them,
• This is what makes Maximus or William Wallace
heroic. They are willing to die to set others free.
• Joseph’s story 186
• “they will be called oaks of righteousness” Isaiah
61:3. There under a man’s strength the woman
finds rest.
• The masculine journey takes a man away from
the woman so that he might return to her. E goes
to find his strength and then returns to offer it.
• He tears down the walls of the tower that has
held her with his words and his actions.
• He speaks to her heart’s deepest question in a
thousand ways, yes you are lovely, yes there is
one who will fight for you.
• Since most men have yet to fight the battle, most
women remain in the tower.
Using Her 187
• Most men want the maiden without any cost to
themselves.
• That is what draws men to pornography:
• He gets to enjoy the woman at her expense
• When a man insists on being energized by the
woman, he uses her to get the feeling he is a man
• It is a false strength because it comes from
outside and not from his deep center
• Tamar page 187-188
• Most men marry for safety, they chose a woman
who will make them feel like a man, but never
really challenge them to be one.
• Why don't men offer what they have to their
women, because we know down deep in our guts
that it won’t be enough.
• Barrenness of Eve 189
• What if it does not work?
• Work for what?
– Validate you as a man?
– Resurrect her heart in one day?
• You can’t bring your question to Eve. No matter
how good of a man you are you can never be
enough.
• If she is the report card on your strength you will
ultimately get an F, but that is not why you love
her, to get a grade.
• You love her because that is what you were made
to do.
• That’s what a real man does
Eve to Adam 190
• Tamar, Rahab, and Ruth 190-191
• There is no possible reading of this passage that
is “safe” or “nice”
• Song of Solomon 192
• The church has really crippled women when it
tells them that their beauty is in vain and they are
at their feminine best when they are serving
others.
• A woman is at her best when she is being a
woman.
• Boaz and Ruth revisited 192
• John’s challenge to women 192
It is a Battle 192
• Will you fight for her? 192
• Some men are willing to go in once, twice, even
three times, but a Warrior is in it for good.
• Daniels story 193
• What kind of man do you want to be? Maximus?
Wallace? Or Judah?
• John and Stasi’s friend’s wedding 193-194
Close 195
• John’s Christmas present
• My birthday present
• Next time An Adventure to Live Chapter 11