Transcript EMPLOYMENT AT WILL RULE

Busi 30833
Foundations of Leadership
Stuart A. Youngblood
Dan Rogers Hall, Room 366
Phone: 817-257-7562
E-Mail: s.youngblood@ tcu.edu
Pablo Neruda:
If we were not so single-minded
about keeping our lives moving,
and for once could do nothing,
perhaps a huge silence
might interrupt this sadness
of never understanding ourselves
and of threatening ourselves with death.
Habit 1: You are the programmer!
Review:
You choose your emotions!
You are the most important person in you
circle of influence!
We tell ourselves clever stories to
rationalize learned, reactive behavior.
Nietzsche:
“S/he who has a why to live can bear with
almost any how.”
Habit 2:
Begin With The End In Mind
(You Write the Program)
All things are created twice:
1. You must create it mentally & spiritually
2. Then you can create it physically
Requires self-awareness, imagination,
foresight, & conscience to
understand/learn about yourself and
what you really value
Robert Fritz on vision:
“The best way to begin the creative
process is at the end.”
From: The Path of Least Resistance.” NY: Fawcett Columbine, 1989.
Importance of Habit 2
Principles
Personal
and Values
Mission
Statement
• It gives you purpose & direction in your life
• You won’t miss good opportunities
• You will be better able to evaluate situations
& opportunities
• If they are NOT the right opportunities, you
are more likely to say “NO”
Importance of Habit 2
Don’t let yourself be guilty of
climbing a ladder that is
leaning against the wrong
wall
Personal Mission Statement
• Your personal VISION of the desired
future based on the CORE VALUES &
PRINCIPLES that are most important to
you as a person and as a leader
• It is based on how you want to live your
life and what you want to be
remembered for when your life is over
Characteristics
• Timeless – constant in the face of change
• Ends & Means – what you really want and how
you will get there
• Four Basic Human Needs
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Live (physical needs)
Love (emotional needs)
Learn (staying connected)
Legacy (knowing that your life will matter)
• Roles – living a balanced life that honors all of
the roles that are really important to you
Individual Examples
• I want to be the kind of person my
dog already thinks I am.
• I live to serve my talents as
communicator, artist, and
independent businesswoman. I
create balance in work, play, and
community. I inspire those I interact
with.
Individual Examples
My mission is to give, for giving is what
I do best and I can learn to do better. I
will seek to learn, for learning is the
basis for growth, and growing is the
key to living. I will seek first to
understand, for understanding is the
key to finding value, and value is the
basis for respect, decisions, and
action. This will be my first act with my
wife, family, and my work.
Exercises
• My “end in mind” for the
exercises that follow is:
To help you to think deeply
about yourself and apply these
thoughts to creating a
Personal Mission Statement
Exercise: Personal Assets
When everything is really working for
you, when you are most productive and
the happiest:
1. What are you doing?
2. What personal capabilities are you using?
3. What do others see and comment on during these
times?
Exercise: Core Values
Core Values: The worth or priority we place on people,
things, ideas, and principles.
You have been chosen to take a ride in a “magic time
machine” and travel to the end of time. Since space is
limited, you can only take 3 core values with you…values
that most reflect what is important to you in your life.
What are these 3 core values that will define who you
want to be until the end of time?
Be Specific
Update: Core Values
I was mistaken …there is only room
for 2 core values that you can take
with you on this journey.
Which 2 values define who you want
to be until the end of time?
What are they?
Update: Core Values
I was mistaken again …there is only
room for 1 core value to accompany
you on this journey.
Which 1 core value defines who you
want to be until the end of time?
Exercise: What’s Next For You?
Focus on the ACCOMPLISHMENTS of your life in the past
4-5 years
1. What accomplishments are you most proud of?
2. What personal assets did you depend on?
3. What did you learn or develop that mattered most?
Exercise: What’s Next For You?
Now, what have you prepared yourself to do
very well over the next 4-5 years?
Important Roles In My Life
What roles are you in now and who
do you interact with in those roles?
Important Roles In My Life
Roles
Persons
Husband
Anne
Father
Therine & Abby
AOM Ombuds
18,000+ AOM members
Teacher
My Students
Mediator
Parties in the dispute
Important Roles In Your Life
• Think about the different ROLES that
you are currently involved in
• List the five most important roles
• Next to the roles, list the names of the
key people that you interact with in
these roles
Important Roles In My Life
Roles
Persons
Your Final Legacy
SCENARIO: You are celebrating your
80th Birthday. Write short phrases
describing what 3 people (family &
friends) will say in tribute to you as
they look back on your life
Exercise: Complete the Sentence
1. I am at my best when I am …
2. The thing that I want most in life that I do not currently
have is …
3. My family and best friends tell me that my strongest asset
is …
4. The thing that I want most from my career is …
5. The things that I need to work on to improve over the next
five years are …
Exercise: Complete the Sentence
6.
My deepest positive emotions come when…
7.
The qualities of character that I most admire in others are …
8.
The qualities of character that best define the “real me” are …
9.
The adventure that I want to have is …
10. If I had unlimited time and resources over the next five years, I
would…
Exercise: Complete the Sentence
11. When I retire and look back on my life, the greatest feelings of
pride and fulfillment will come from …
12. The thing that I would dare to do, if I knew that I could not fail
is …
13. My greatest talent (gift) is …
14. The relationships that I value most are …
15. If I were to win the lottery, then I would …
Bringing It All Together
Think back over all of these exercises:
1. What shows up more than once?
2. What is clearly important to you, even
though it only shows up once?
Now, let’s try to bring your personal
insights together
Personal Mission Statement
Why is Your Mission Statement Important?
1. It is the ‘mental creation’ for your life
2. It enables you to live an ‘intentional life’
3. It allows you to see if you are/are not making
progress toward what is most important to
you
4. It allows you to think & act ‘strategically’ on
a personal level
Homework: Take The Challenge
Use the ‘data’ you have generated so far in these
exercises to:
• Finish a draft of your personal mission
statement
• We will use it as we move forward into Habit 3
Should You Change Your Personal
Mission Statement?
Anything you create, you can change:
• You are most likely to change it at important life
stage changes … at graduation, accepting a job,
marriage, birth of your children, important career
transitions, and when you must make really big
decisions
• Goals are more likely to change than core values