Marriage in Afghanistan
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MARRIAGE IN
AFGHANISTAN
By: Jade Schilling
2nd Block
Wedding lasts from around
6:00pm-11:00pm
Guests sit at tables
• Bride’s guests on right side
• Groom’s guests on left side
Throne-like chairs in front for
couple
Arranged marriage
Ceremony is sometimes the first
time the bride and groom meet
http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909
http://blogdavinciflorist.blogspot.com/2010/04/interna
tional-engagement-party-at.html
CUSTOMS AND TRADITIONS
SPOUSE CRITERIA
For bride:
For groom:
• Age (can’t marry until 16)
• Age
• Physical appearance
• Physical appearance
• Character
• Education
• Family background
• Ability to support wife
• Reputation
• Character
**can marry first cousin, if there is a suitable one**
• Family background
http://www.muslim-marriage-guide.com/afghan-marriage-traditions.html
ENGAGEMENT
http://awwproject.org/2010/05/a-family-matter-part-i/
• First, letter is sent from male’s
parents to a member of the
female’s family
• (to be)Groom’s father and
elders go to (to be) bride’s
house
• They bring gifts for to-be-bride
• Groom’s father (or respected
man from groom side) tells of
their purpose and demand
• Elder man from bride’s side
receives the demand
http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html
BEFORE THE WEDDING
Amount of time between the engagement and the
wedding ceremony depends on financial ability of
groom’s family
Groom (or groom’s family) provides:
• House
• Dowry (wedding gifts/payment)
• Expenses of wedding ceremony
• Gifts for bride
http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html
BEFORE THE WEDDING
B r i d e ’s H o u s e
G r o o m ’s H o u s e
Lunch
Henna
• First put on bride-to-be (by groom)
• Groom then leaves
• Henna is then put on the rest of the
girls who are not married
•
kind of like the equivalent of a
rehearsal dinner in America
• Large group of people
• Many gifts are brought to the groom
and bride
http://www.onislam.net/english
/culture-andentertainment/traditions/41164
6-afghan-muslim-wedding.html
http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/
special-coverage/454711-wedding-traditions-in-muslim-communities-special.html
Marriage Ceremony
• After the lunch,
elders start going to
the bride’s house
• Soon after, everyone
follows
• Groom arrives on a
decorated horse
• Musicians play
tambourines
http://www.nerdygaga.com/3723/wedding-traditions-and-meanings/
http://culturalembrace.blogspot.com/2011_02_01_archive.html
http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html
http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm
• Once everyone is there, a marriage speech is
given
• Guests dance to the music
• Mullah (holy man) is the one who marries the
couple
• Couple sit on a sofa
• Couple has shawl placed over their heads and
they hold a mirror
• Tradition is called ““mirror and Qur’an.”
http://fensti.freehostia.com/Engl180/KiteRunner/Weddings.html
Marriage Ceremony
http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909
http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm
Marriage Ceremony
• The wedding cake is first cut
and tasted by the newly
married couple
• It is then given out to the
guests
• Guests dance for a while
• They dance the national dance
of the Afghans, the Attan
• People congratulate the
couple on their marriage
http://www.afghan4life.com/afghan-girl-very-nicemast-mily/attan-dance-2012-afghan-wedding-attandance-2012-video_584f2dde1.html
http://finechinagirl.com/2009/07/05/cake-boss-carlos-bakery-hoboken/
http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html
http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909
http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm
AFTER THE CEREMONY
Bride and Groom go to new home
When bride arrives, an animal (sheep or goat)
is sacrificed for Allah
Bride hammers nail into door because it is a
good omen for the marriage
A few days later (either 3 or 7) relatives and
friends bring gifts for bride
http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html
http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm
WORKS CITED
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