Transcript Lesson 13
Developing Healthful Family Relationships Unit 3, Lesson 13 National Health Standards 1.2, 1.8, 2.1, 5.7 Family Relationships • Family ▫ Basic unit of society ▫ Group of people to which we belong • Extended Family members ▫ All members of a family in addition to immediate family members • Healthful family ▫ Family that practices skills to promote loving, responsible relationships Roles of parents and guardians • Teach children: ▫ ▫ ▫ ▫ ▫ Self-respecting behavior Healthful attitudes Effective communication Clear sense of value Responsible decision making ▫ ▫ ▫ ▫ Conflict resolution Coping skills Delayed gratification Expressing affection and integrating love and sexuality ▫ Give and receive kindness ▫ Work ethic ▫ Respect for authority • Teach by: ▫ ▫ ▫ ▫ Setting example Having discussions Expecting behaviors and skills to be practiced Enforcing consequences Roles of grandparents • Reinforcing behaviors and skills taught by parents • Help raise grandchildren Roles of other family members • Practice behaviors and skills taught by parents • Help each other interact in loving and responsible ways Family continuum • 2 extremes of family life ▫ Ideal and dysfunction Dysfunctional Family Ideal Family 1 1Meeks, Linda. Heit, Philip. Page, Randy. Health and Wellness. McGrawHill Glencoe. 2008. p. 135. • Dysfunctional Family ▫ Does not promote loving, responsible relationships • Ideal Family ▫ Does promote loving, responsible relationships Healthful Family Relationships • Learn self-respecting behavior ▫ Treat self in a healthy, responsible way • Learn to value needs of others ▫ Know difference between self-respect and selfcentered ( fulfill personal needs with little regard for others) • Learn healthful attitudes toward sexuality ▫ Positive feelings and attitudes about body, sex role, and relationships • Learn healthful sex roles ▫ Behavior, attitude, value, and beliefs appropriate for males and females on the basis of biological sex • Learn effective communication skills ▫ Positive ways to share feelings, thoughts, and information with others • Learn a clear sense of value ▫ Healthful standard or belief • Learn to make responsible decisions ▫ Imitate, observe, evaluate, set guidelines • Learn to resolve conflicts ▫ Listen and work to find a common solution • Learn effective coping skills ▫ Skills to deal with life’s crises • Learn to delay gratification ▫ Voluntarily delaying the reward for the completion of a task or responsibility • Learn to express affection ▫ Appropriate ways to express affection for loved ones • Learning a work ethic ▫ Attitude, discipline, motivation, and commitment towards tasks to be completed • Learn to respect authority ▫ Respect laws and rules of authority figures Causes of Dysfunctional Families • Chemical dependence ▫ Life depends on getting chemical over needs of other family members ▫ Increases risk of violence, neglect, abuse ▫ May be an inherited dependency ▫ Co-dependent – lives without needed items to be sure addict gets what they “need” • Other addictions ▫ Any compelling desire to use or engage in a behavior despite the consequences ▫ Food, gambling, shopping, etc. • Perfectionism ▫ Compelling need to be flawless • Violence in the family ▫ Use of physical force to injure, damage, or destroy oneself, others, or property ▫ In a relationship when one member uses violence to control the other member, it is domestic violence • Abuse in the family ▫ Harmful maltreatment of another person • Child abuse ▫ Harmful maltreatment of a minor • Spouse abuse ▫ Harmful maltreatment of a husband or wife • Parent abuse ▫ Harmful treatment of a parent • Elder abuse ▫ Harmful treatment of an aged family member 4 kinds of abuse • Physical ▫ Physical injury to victim • Emotional ▫ Belittling, bad mouthing, withholding affection • Neglect ▫ Failure to provide proper care and guidance • Sexual abuse ▫ Forced sexual contact – by physical force, manipulation, or threat of harm • Abandonment in a family ▫ Give up or refuse responsibility for those whom they are legally bound to provide care • Mental disorders in a family ▫ Behavioral or psychological syndrome or pattern of a family member that takes special attention of all family members Co-dependent Relationships • Have trouble with intimacy ▫ Deep and meaningful kind of sharing between people • Obsessing about the needs of others and avoiding others • Enmeshment ▫ Become so focused on the needs of another that own needs go unmet • Lack of interdependency ▫ Depend on each other, yet have own identity Improve Relationship • Intervention ▫ Seek professional help outside the family • Therapy ▫ Individual or group ▫ Practice relating to one another in a safe environment Steps to Resolve Family Conflicts Responsibly • Remain calm • Set a positive tone • Define the conflict and take responsibility of own actions • Listen to needs and feelings of others • List and evaluate possible solutions • Agree on a solution • Communicate Recovery programs ▫ Group that support members as they change behaviors • AA – Alcoholics Anonymous – group for recovering addicts • Al-Anon – group for families who have an addict member • Alateen – group for teens who have addicted family members or friends