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Reality
Ride
Each decision we make has a
consequence. The decisions
we make today directly affect
the future.
Blood, Sweat, and Tears Spinning
Wheel
“Big View”
Opportunity
Freedom
Self-respect
Why will this view give you
more self-respect?
If you can’t see over the wall,
ask yourself, “What step am I
tripping on?” (Then put Desire,
Time and Effort into that step.)
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Why does climbing the
steps and achieving this
view give you endless
options?
I will become . . .
(My dreams and goals)
Plugging In
Lift Weight
Maze
Fighting
Hurdles
What is
your current
view giving
you?
Climbing Out
“Limited View”
Defense Mech
Why do you often miss
the simple solution?
Labels
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Why Try?
If you’re standing here, why is opportunity,
freedom, and self-respect hard to get?
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Reality Ride
How will your motivation to change
go up with each step that you climb?
Shaggy- Keepin’ it real with
lyrics
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Goal:
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Things that get you in
trouble . . .
What will your reality
be when you ride here?
At home:
What choices
will give you . . .
At school:
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With peers:
Your Challenges . . .
In future:
Home:
School:
Peers:
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Peers
School
Home
What problems do
you keep having
over and over?
Who can support you
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Frustrated
Confused
Angry
Scared
You keep getting
the same results
“Reality”
Consequences of
crash . . .
Will these things give you
Opportunity?
lasting . . .
Freedom?
Self-respect?
The Definition of an
Emotional Roller Coaster
Reality Ride Song
Tearing off
Labels
Negative labels can hurt your future, but
positive labels can help you achieve your
goals and attain better opportunities.
Ultimately, the label you wear depends on
you: you can change your labels by
changing your actions and showing others
your strengths and positive traits.
India Arie – I’m Not My Hair
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Four steps to tear off your label:
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1. Identify: How is your label working for you?
• What labels do you have that are getting in the way of your opportunities?
Permission to brag:
• What do you like about
yourself?
• What do others like
about you?
2. Do something different.
• Your accomplishments
• What behavior needs to change?
• Your strengths, goals
and dreams
• What do you need to stop doing? (not working for you)
• What do you need to start doing? (something new)
• Remember: Same thing = same results
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• If you were to give
yourself a label, what
would it be? (Must be
positive.)
What is a label?
3. Focus on your strength.
• Project the label that you want.
4. Repeat what you are doing right.
• Remember: It takes time for others to see the change.
Every night ask yourself:
• What did I do today to tear off the label?
• How can I do more of this tomorrow?
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Why is it
easy to
give up
when you
have a
label?
Are these
ever an
excuse?
Susan Boyle –
Britian’s Got Talent
Defense Mechanisms
Pressure situations are best handled by
maintaining control of your emotions and
selecting positive defense mechanisms
(those that don’t hurt yourself or others).
The Beetles –
Let it be
A Knight’s
Tale
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Situation
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Disrespected
Yelled at
Put down
Laughed at
What is a defense mechanism?
How do you respond (act) when:
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Mad at parent
Embarrassed
Make a mistake
Feel pressure
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You’re hit
You lose
Confronted
Frustrated
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Four Steps to Control Your D.M.
Choice
Who chooses
the defense?
Blamed
Get caught
Hurt
Angry
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How do you protect
your feelings?
Feeling
1. Recognize the situation.
When you are in a pressure situation, these are the signs:
You feel angry, frustrated, or nervous.
What outward behaviors can you use to help control the
pressure?
2. Identify the situations where you can practice step 1.
What are the situations you need to practice this?
“Easy”
3. Don’t let other people control how you will respond.
This gives you
self-respect.
Why?
You know someone is trying to control you if they are yelling at
you, physically attacking you, or are putting you down.
4. Select a positive solution
What would motivate you to do the tougher (harder) thing?
What might happen if you stay in control?
“Hard”
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Defense
How do you know when you’ve selected a positive
defense mechanism?
“When you are helping, not hurting, yourself and others”
Parking
Lot Rage
The Motivation
Formula
You can take your challenges and channel
them into positive motivation: first to better
yourself, and then to turn outward and help
others.
I Will Survive
Channeling Anger and Challenges into Positive Motivation
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Choice
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“The Flood Zone”
• Hurting self or others
• Less self-respect
• Energy dies
• Easy – “path
of least resistance”
Less opportunity
and freedom
Teen
Hoop
Dreams
Channeling Anger and Challenges into Positive Motivation
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Choice
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3
Who Are Your
Lifelines?
• Who can help you out of the flood zone
at home? At school? With your peers?
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“The Flood Zone”
• Hurting self or others
Less opportunity
and freedom
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• Less self-respect
• Energy dies
Use
Use your inner voice to direct
your
Positive
motivation (energy) in a positive direction
(i.e. I will try). It’s a positive
direction
if
“Self
Talk”
you’re not hurting yourself or others)
• Focus self-talk on what you do have
control over.
• Easy – “path
of least resistance”
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“Character–
• You go through the
motions and don’t give up
Heart”
out of respect for people
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who care about you.
• You don’t give up out of
respect for yourself.
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Get Plugged
in
“Support
System”
If channeled,
challenges & anger
can be converted into
Positive Motivation
& Healing
A Passion
Purpose
(Turn outward)
or Interest
WhyTry?
Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect
Climbing Out
When you put the tools from the visual
metaphors into action, and when you develop
an awareness of the positive and negative
ways that others can influence you, you will be
prepared to avoid negative behaviors and
their consequences.
Why Try Climbing Out
Music Video
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What is the “pot” that you are in?
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How do friends (others) affect you in
both positive ways and negative ways?
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When you get in trouble (or in the pot)
are you keeping others in, or yourself?
How?
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Who wants to see you climb out? Why?
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What are the reasons
for staying in the pot?
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What will your future be
like if you don’t get out?
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Why is it
difficult
for the crabs
to climb out
of the pot?
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What are the reasons for
getting out of the pot?
What will your future be
like when you climb out?
What are the tools you can
use to get out?
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Warning: if you try to get out, you will be attacked! Why?
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Crabs in a pot
video
Monkeys and
Bananas
Jumping Your
Hurdles
Everyone experiences setbacks, but
successful people “jump back up” and
keep trying. They know that there are
certain steps they can use to help them
overcome their challenges and achieve
success.
Destiny Child’s - Survivor
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What have you
jumped over?
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1. Identify Problem
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What can you
jump over?
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4. Take Action
What specific behaviors (actions) do you
need to stop or add to jump your hurdle?
Stopped Behaviors
Added Behaviors
What problem do you really
want to overcome?
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Why should you
try to jump your
hurdle?
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2. Create Options
What are some options you
can create?
5. Believe in Change
On a scale from one to ten, circle where you
are in believing change will happen.
“I can’t
3. Get Help
1.
Who can help you get over
your hurdle?
Who can you help?
2.
“I know I have
the strength”
“Maybe”
change”
3.
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10.
6. Jump Back Up
If you trip, how will jumping back up make
you stronger?
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Your Problem:
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What should your
“self-talk” be
telling you as you
try to jump your
hurdle?
Edwin Moses
Accord Commercial
Desire, Time, Effort
Anything worthwhile in life requires
desire, time, and effort. There are no
shortcuts to achieving success. You
will get much further in life by
working hard than by simply relying
on your talents or abilities.
Fly Like an Eagle – Steve
Miller Band
Steve Nash –
Training Day
Lift the Weight
Living by laws and rules and
developing self-discipline will
make you stronger, opening the
doors of opportunity for the
future.
Rocky Theme Song
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What is expected of you from:
Why do you need
resistance to
become stronger?
Parents? (rules)
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School? (rules)
Society? (laws)
Choice
Why does this need to be your
strongest muscle?
Myself? (self-discipline)
What things get you into the
most trouble?
Challenge
3
Character
What have you
given up on?
“Hard”
Resistance
“Easy”
No Resistance
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What are three things that
you put most of your time
and effort into?
How does giving up
make you weak?
1.
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2.
What are three new things you
could do with your time that will
make you stronger?
3.
Do any of these things
give you opportunity,
freedom, and self-respect?
1.
2.
If ”yes,” keep lifting. If ”no,” create a new workout.
3.
Weightlifting Mishaps
Get Plugged In
Getting help is not a weakness, it is a strength!
Challenges become easier when you have a
positive support system to help you overcome
them. YOU have the power to create a support
system if you don’t have one. YOU have the
power to strengthen a support system if your is
weak.
Joe Cocker – With a Little Help
From My Friends
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Parent/Guardian
How much time are you spending with your parent or guardian? (If you’re not spending at least 30 minutes a
day, then create and demand more time!)
What is one conflict, argument, or power struggle that you can give up today that won’t hurt you but will help
lower your parents’ anxiety about you?
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Positive Friend
Remember: You know you have a “real” friend if they do things that help (not hurt) themselves and you.
What could you do to help a friend overcome peer pressure and deal with challenges at home
and at school?
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Teacher/Counselor/School Official
Make sure that someone at school knows the real you and what you can become
with their help. Ask how they will help you reach your dreams and potential?
Let them know what you are willing to do, then work together with them to
accomplish your goals.
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Positive Mentor
Who can you identify that has accomplished goals and dreams similar to those that
you want to accomplish?
What are three qualities about them that you respect and admire that you would like
to develop also?
Take a risk: If possible ask them how they can help you achieve the same thing.
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Something that inspires or motivates you to do good
What motivates you to not hurt yourself or others?
What do you do with your time that’s fun, gives you self-respect, and doesn’t get you
into trouble? How can you do more of this?
These 5
connections
will help turn on the
“light”
to see your future
more clearly
Father Involvement
You Can See Over The Wall
When you have a clear vision of your future, you
have hope for something better, and life’s
challenges become nothing but temporary
obstacles. When you have a limited perspective,
it is hard to see beyond the day-to-day
challenges, and impossible to dream of a
brighter future.
Incubus - Drive
“Big View”
Opportunity
Freedom
Self-respect
Why will this view give you
more self-respect?
If you can’t see over the wall,
ask yourself, “What step am I
tripping on?” (Then put Desire,
Time and Effort into that step.)
3
Why does climbing the
steps and achieving this
view give you endless
options?
I will become . . .
(My dreams and goals)
Plugging In
Lift Weight
Maze
Fighting
Hurdles
What is
your current
view giving
you?
Climbing Out
“Limited View”
Defense Mech
Why do you often miss
the simple solution?
Labels
1
Why Try?
If you’re standing here, why is opportunity,
freedom, and self-respect hard to get?
2
Reality Ride
How will your motivation to change
go up with each step that you climb?
Awareness Test
UCLA Squirrels