Transcript STRESS MANAGEMENT

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT
K V V NARASIMHA RAO
DEE
STATE DAM SAFETY ORGANISATION
CDO
•SMILE
It costs you nothing
Moreover it adds value to your face
• YOU ARE SPECIAL
&
UNIQUE
PERSONALITY
• The aggregate and integration of all the
different characterstics of an individual –
psychological , intellectual , emotional,
physical etc.
• Your personality is what makes you
unique – a distinct individual in a sea of
humanity with your own way of thinking
and doing things.
Why Personality Development?
• Time Famine
• Change
• No rehearsals in life
• Global village
• More choices & opportunities
Premium on personal productivity
Pace and Pressures of life – loosing control
of life
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u
Ex: Role in Organisation
• Expectations of Superiors:
• Responsibility
• Self Confidence
• Honesty
• Capacity to take +ve criticism
• Judgement
• Discipline & self control
• Involvement
• Expectations of Subordinates:
• Respect for others
• Willingness to share information
• Appreciation
• Encouragement
• Fair play & justice
• Helpfulness
• Accessibility
• Loyalty
• Expectations of colleagues:
• Co operation
• Loyalty
• Frankness
• Modesty
• Respect & Courtesy
What is EXPECTED?
• Peace
• Productivity ( success )
• happiness
PEACE :
– Having serenity ,balance and harmony through control of events
PRODUCTIVITY:
Sense of ACCOMLISHMENT &
Sense of SELF WORTH
HAPPINESS:
Sense of WELL BEING
FEEL GOOD FACTOR
HOW?
4T`s
• Thought  feeling emotion
action habit character destiny
•+ ve thinking
• Talk --
self talk  conversation  discussion-
argument
COMMUNICATION
• Task  purpose  goal  achievment 
growth
KNOWLEDGE , SKILL , ATTITUDE
• TIME = Resource
IRRICOVERABLE
Effective process to RESULT
Programm
ing
Result
Beliefs
Behavior
Attitude
Feeling
Thoughts /Thinking:
“ Change thinking to change life”
Feeling:
“Good”
Emotion:
Emotions that motivate us in most of our
actions.
1. Fear: “ I have to”
Fear of loss/ poverty
Fear of old age
Fear of criticism / disapproval
Fear of ill health
Fear of failure
Fear of rejection
Fear > Faith
Fear < Faith
Stress
Confidence
• 2. DUTY
• 3. LOVE / DESIRE
“ I OUGHT TO”
“ I WANT TO”
“ The things we do or refrain from doing
because of fear greatly outweigh the
number of things we do because of desire”
Action / Behaviour
• Behaviour is a reflection of what you truly
believe
Never act out of negative emotions
Habit
• “ Repeated action”
“ Habits are easy to form and difficult to
break”
Ten bad habits acting as progress
obstructers:
No proiritising
perfectionism
Procrastination
non focus
Fear of change
impunctuality
Escapism
lying
Purposeless life
jealousy
character
• “Doing what you say you`re doing”
• “ Adversity shows the man`s character”
DESTINY
• desired out come … happiness
POSITIVE THINKING
• “ Proactive”
“ Not focusing on obstacles”
For success in globalisation
“ Lateral thinking “
“ out of box thinking”
“ think different”
AttItude
• “ perspectives from which we view life”
Programming creates beliefs
Beliefs
creates attitudes
Attitudes
creates feelings
Feelings
creates actions
Actions
creates results
• PMA: A perspective which allows one to
see the “ opportunities “ ahead and set his
sights to reach them .
Our attitudes are created and controlled or
influenced by our “ beliefs”
STEPS TO PMA:
Think , but don`t react
Become a “how” thinker
Believe u can and u can
Improve self image
DEVELOPMENT
BEGINS
WITH
• REVIEWING
• RESPONDING
• VALUING -- -- placing worth
• ORGANISING-- system of beliefs and
hierarchy
• ACT ---- --- in accordance with the
value system
Improving self image
“PUT WHAT YOU
WANT FIRST”
“DON`T ALLOW
OTHERS TO
DEFINE YOUR
WORTH”
“ACCEPT YOURSELF
–
UNCONDITIONALLY”
“YOU`RE BETTER
THAN YOU THINK”
“PUT THE PAST IN
THE PAST”
“BUILD ON YOUR
STRENGTHS”
Goals
• Planned conflict with the status quo
• SMART goals
• Three obstacles to leaving comfort zones
1.The invisible committee
2. Walls
3.Fear of change
TIME
• Stop thinking “Time management” and
start thinking “ event control”
• Greater event control  more productivity
-Self Esteem
Time Robbers
Imposed on us
self –inflected
Interruptions
Failure to delegate
Unclear job description
Poor attitude
Poor communication
Failure to listen
Shifting priorities
Unfinished tasks
Conflicting priorities
Poor planning
Lack of authority
Cluttered work place
Untrained staff
Perfectionism
Solution to Managing Time
Prioritise
Plan
Delegate
Set goals
Structure each day
Value time
Get organised
Evaluation of Individual Performance
• {IA + AA}A = IHP
• IA Inborn attributes
(mental ability, tendency, temperment)
• AA Acquired attributes
( knowledge,skill,talent,expression,ability)
A
Attitude ** This factor plays a major
role
• What will you do with your future?
• You have 2 choices really…..
• You can choose to just survive..
• You can choose to just survive..
or
• You can choose to make a difference.
`
but….. Know this
Shape your Future
• Develop your ‘vision”
• Define your ”dream”
• Set your “goals”
• Work out your “action plan”
• Develop the right
• Then……..
habits
“ JUST DO IT”
NEEDS
Belief
windo
w
Rules
Behaviour
patterns
Results
NEEDS
TO LIVE
safe & secure
TO LOVE & BE LOVED
gives “Purpose”
TO FEEL IMPORNANT
Self esteem
TO EXPERIENCE
VARIETY
• Our Beliefs can be reflection of our values.
• Ex: Regarding self esteem
My worth as a person is determined by
-the praise I receive from others
- the things I own
- the job I hold
- the way I look
- the kind of person I marry
- any combination of the above
- none of the above
REMEMBER
For having
“ LEAVE
LIVE
LOVE
WINNING attitude
THE PAST
THE PRESENT
THE FUTURE ”
• WHEN!
• “ Some day, when I get time, I`m going
to…………………”
• If not NOW !
• WHEN?
“Your task is to build a better world” said
God
And I answered “ But HOW? The world is
such a vast place , and oh so complicated
now
I am small and helpless,
there is nothing much I can do”
• But God in all His wisdom said,
” Just build a
better you!
“
Impossible is a word to be
found only in the dictionary of
fools
•Keep SMILing
with PMA
• THANK YOU