Transcript Biblical People Skills - Laymans School of Training

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BIBLICAL PEOPLE SKILLS SEMINAR
Mandatory Training for ALL Christian Leaders
…and all who aspire to develop their skills
for greater success in life
Eccl 10:10 (NIV) If the ax is dull and its edge unsharpened,
more strength is needed but skill will bring success.
30 BIBLICAL PEOPLE SKILL principles
...divided into 4 categories of 3, 6, 12 & 9 principles
With 30 MEMORY PEGS
…to make it quick and easy to mentally recall
the perfect principle/s to solve a specific problem
Dan 2:14 (NIV) When Arioch, the commander of the king's
guard, had gone out to put to death the wise men of Babylon,
Daniel spoke to him with wisdom and TACT.
The First 9 of 30 MEMORY PEGS
(they’re easy to remember, because they rhyme)
One is Bun
Four is Door
Seven is Heaven
Two is Shoe
Five is Jive
Eight is Plate
Three is Tree
Six is Licks
Nine is Line
FIRST CATEGORY
Biblical People Skill principles 13
3 FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES TO
ALWAYS USE IN ALL YOUR
DEALINGS WITH PEOPLE
1.
DON’T CRITICIZE, CONDEMN OR COMPLAIN.
Memory Peg
# ONE - BUN
Three C’s
on a bun.
2.
GIVE HONEST,
SINCERE APPRECIATION.
Memory Peg
# TWO - SHOE
Clapping
appreciating
hands coming out
a pair of shoes.
3.
AROUSE IN THE
OTHER PERSON
AN EAGER WANT.
Memory Peg
# THREE - TREE
A ‘wanted’ poster
hanging on a tree.
SECOND CATEGORY
Biblical People Skill principles 49
6 WAYS TO CREATE
A MORE POSITIVE IMAGE
(of yourself and thereby of your church)
4.
BECOME GENUINELY
INTERESTED IN
OTHER PEOPLE.
Memory Peg # FOUR REVOLVING DOOR
The people in this
jammed door need
someone to become
genuinely interested
in their problem.
5.
SMILE.
Memory Peg
# FIVE - JIVE
Two smiling people
jiving together.
because a smile lets
‘The SON’ shine
through to brighten
the lives of all those
around us.
Always give
every person a
warm smile,
By sowing daily smiles you’ll reap a happier
environment to live in. Smart man!!
Take it from one who knows.
King Smiley
6.
REMEMBER THAT A
PERSON’S NAME IS
TO THAT PERSON THE
SWEETEST AND MOST
IMPORTANT SOUND IN
ANY LANGUAGE.
Memory Peg
# SIX - LICKS
A tongue licking
a name plate.
7.
BE A GOOD
LISTENER.
ENCOURAGE OTHERS
TO TALK ABOUT
THEMSELVES.
Memory Peg
# SEVEN - HEAVEN
Headphones for listening
rolling down the
stairway of heaven.
8.
TALK IN TERMS OF THE
OTHER PERSON’S
INTEREST.
Memory Peg
# EIGHT - PLATE
An interesting talking
mouth engraved
on a plate.
9.
MAKE THE
OTHER PERSON
FEEL IMPORTANT AND DO IT SINCERELY.
Memory Peg # NINE TELEPHONE LINE
Joe is sincerely making
the other person on the
telephone line feel
important.
THIRD CATEGORY
Biblical People Skill principles 1021
12 WAYS TO WIN PEOPLE TO
GOD'S WAY OF THINKING
10.
THE ONLY WAY
TO GET THE
BEST OF AN
ARGUMENT IS
TO AVOID IT.
Memory Peg # TEN - PEN
The smart pig in the pig-pen
walks away from the grouch to
avoid further argument.
11.
SHOW RESPECT FOR
THE OTHER PERSON’S
OPINION. NEVER SAY,
“YOU’RE WRONG!”
Memory Peg
# ELEVEN - KEVIN
This smart kid
always shows respect
towards his parents.
12.
WHEN YOU ARE WRONG, ADMIT IT QUICKLY
AND EMPHATICALLY.
Memory Peg
# TWELVE SHELVE
There is a sign on the shelf which reads,
“I admit that I am wrong!”
13.
BEGIN IN A FRIENDLY WAY.
Memory Peg
# THIRTEEN
- HURTING
The good Samaritan begins in a friendly way
as he helps the hurting victim.
14.
GET THE OTHER
PERSON SAYING,
“YES, YES”
IMMEDIATELY.
Memory Peg
# FOURTEEN - SORTING
You are sorting out
pairs of cards and
find the two saying,
“Yes, Yes!”
15.
LET THE OTHER
PERSON DO A GREAT
DEAL OF THE TALKING.
Memory Peg
# FIFTEEN - DRIFTING
In the drifting dinghy is
an interested husband
listening to his
talkative wife.
16.
LET THE OTHER
PERSON FEEL
THAT THE IDEA
IS HIS OR HERS.
Memory Peg
# SIXTEEN - MIXING
A mixing bowl with
someone else’s
idea bulb in it.
17.
TRY HONESTLY TO SEE
THINGS FROM THE
OTHER PERSON’S
POINT OF VIEW.
Memory Peg
# SEVENTEEN - SEVERING
You’re severed from the
good view others can
see (i.e. you’re not in a
position to see what
they’re seeing).
18.
BE SYMPATHETIC WITH
THE OTHER PERSON’S
IDEAS AND DESIRES.
Memory Peg
# EIGHTEEN - GRATING
Be sympathetic
for the person who
grated the cheese right
down to his fingers.
19.
APPEAL TO THE NOBLER MOTIVES.
Memory Peg
# NINETEEN - SIGNING
A sixteenth century nobleman
signing a document with
a quill (feather) pen.
20.
DRAMATIZE
YOUR IDEAS.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY - SENTRY
The Englishman sentry
dramatizes his marching
outside the Queen’s palace.
21.
THROW DOWN A CHALLENGE.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY ONE DUELLING GUN
A duelling gun with
a flag stick in it’s
barrel and the word
challenge printed
on the cloth.
FOURTH CATEGORY
Biblical People Skill principles 2230
9 WAYS TO CORRECT A PROBLEM
WITHOUT CAUSING OFFENCE OR
AROUSING RESENTMENT
These last 9 ‘Memory Pegs’
are ACTION MEMORY PEGS
22.
BEGIN WITH PRAISE AND HONEST APPRECIATION.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY TWO DANCING SHOES
These are those Gospel shoes
beginning to praise God in the dance.
23.
CALL ATTENTION TO
PEOPLE’S MISTAKES
INDIRECTLY.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY THREE FALLING TREE
The landlord
reprimands the axe,
not the lumberjack,
who made the mistake
of felling the wrong tree.
24.
TALK ABOUT
YOUR OWN MISTAKES
BEFORE CORRECTING
OTHERS.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY FOUR CLOSING DOOR
Small talking toddlers
sometimes make the
mistake of closing a door
onto their own fingers.
25.
ASK QUESTIONS
INSTEAD OF GIVING
DIRECT ORDERS.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY FIVE LIVELY JIVE
Ask your partner
questions about the
steps of the lively jive.
26.
LET THE OTHER
PERSON SAVE FACE.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY SIX LICKING DOG
Rescue the little boy
from the licking Great
Dane to save his face.
27.
HEARTILY PRAISE
THE SLIGHTEST
IMPROVEMENT AND
LAVISHLY PRAISE
EVERY IMPROVEMENT.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY SEVEN DESCENDING
HEAVENLY
JERUSALEM
The new heavenly Jerusalem
is a big improvement on
the old, because it is
filled with praise.
28.
GIVE A PERSON A
FINE REPUTATION
TO LIVE UP TO.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY EIGHT BREAKING PLATES
Greeks have a
fine reputation
for breaking plates.
29.
USE ENCOURAGEMENT
- MAKE THE FAULT
SEEM ‘EASY’ TO
CORRECT.
Memory Peg
# TWENTY NINE BROKEN TELEPHONE LINE
Encourage the wearied
telephone technician
to persist till he
discovers the fault.
30.
MAKE THE OTHER
PERSON ‘HAPPY’
ABOUT DOING THE
THING YOU SUGGEST.
Memory Peg # THIRTY GETTING DIRTY
The little boys are so
happy because daddy
said we can get as dirty
as we like, provided we
dig a compost pit for him.
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