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C.Gordon 9.1.13
Transition to
Parenthood
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Questions to ask before
becoming a parent
Am I ready to be a parent?
Do I feel as though I can deal with the additional
responsibilities of caring for a child?
What kind of lifestyle do I have?
What kinds of changes will I need to make, such as
adjustments to the amount of time I spend with friends?
Do I feel good about making lifestyle changes to care for
a baby?
What are my personal goals and priorities concerning
having a family, going to school, and/or having a career?
‘His’ and ‘Hers’
Transition issues
The transition into parenthood brings common stresses;
however, some of these stresses may be more
significant or challenging to women while others are of
more significance to men (Brotherson 2004).
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“Couples making the transition to parenthood experience
challenges that can threaten the quality and stability of
their relationships and the love that they have for each
other” (Polomeno 2006, 37-38).
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Transition Issues List
Lack of sleep and tiredness
Changing diapers
Expensive baby clothes
Financially providing for the family
Lack of time for watching television
Dissatisfaction with personal appearance
Concern about spouse’s needs
Unpredictable shifts in mood and anxiety
Cost of child care
Time together as a couple
Loss of free time for self and social activities
Change in work situation
Overstimulation of child
Transition Issues List
Anxiety about child illnesses
Increased chores and housework
Decline in sexual interest
Nutritional needs of the child
Personal doubts and parental competence of skills
Recovery from labour and delivery
Intrusive in-laws
Marital communication
Changes in body figure
Financial preparation for child’s schooling
Individual stress and roles and responsibilities
Couple disagreements about roles
Decisions about child care
Other considerations
As a result of changes in attitude to family size and
women’s greater participation in education and work,
more people are having children later in life and having
smaller families.
The number of births outside marriage has increased
dramatically over 30 years – from 12% in 1980 to 44%
in 2007 (National statistics 2009).
While many couples believe that having a baby will bring
them closer together, most research suggests that
couples become less satisfied with their relationship
after having children (Belsky & Pensky, 1988).
Relationship support
Research evidence shows that the quality of the parental
relationship has a powerful impact on parenting and
outcomes for children.
The transition to parenthood is a particularly important
time to provide practical and relationship support for
both parents.
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Who is most at risk?
Not all couples experience a decline in relationship
satisfaction after having a baby. Cowan and Cowan
(1995) have calculated an increase in relationship
satisfaction for between 18% and 30% of couples
becoming parents.
The best predictor of couple relationship quality in
parents is the quality of their relationship before the
baby arrives
Less time for the relationship
Cowan and Cowan asked parents to divide a circle
(called the Pie) according to how they saw themselves
and their roles in life.
The piece of the pie representing parenthood increased
twice as much for women as for men.
Identity as a parent grew larger, the partner/lover piece
grew smaller for both men and women. (Cowan et al,
1985).
Impact on the development of
the child
The perinatal period is of vital importance for the future
development of the child.
The prenatal stage and the first year of a child’s life are
particularly important for emotional, cognitive and
behavioural development.
There is a clear positive link between the quality of the
parents’ relationship and the quality of their parenting
(Erel & Burman, 1995).
Impact on well-being
and health of the couple
The quality of the couple relationship has been shown to have a
major impact on the physical and mental health of both partners
(McAllister, 1995).
Divorced men and women are more likely to smoke or drink heavily.
There is also the close association found between couple
relationship difficulties and poorer psychological well being.
It is important that couples are aware that their relationship may be
particularly vulnerable during this transition.
The impact of stress on a relationship may be reduced when couples
have an understanding of what is happening; can talk through the
issues; and make appropriate plans on how to manage the
transition (Belsky & Pensky, 1988).
The Couple connection
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The Parent Connection
The Parent Connection has been created by One Plus
One the UK’s leading relationships research organisation.
They have been investigating what makes relationships
work or fall apart for the last forty years.
http://theparentconnection.org.uk/
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