HIV Disclosure: Talking with your children and family about living
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Talking with your children and family about living
with HIV/AIDS
Questions Regarding Disclosure
from the parents perspective
Should I tell my child(ren)?
When should I talk with them?
How will my child(ren) take the news?
Will my diagnosis stigmatize my child(ren)?
How will my relationship with my child(ren) change?
Can my kids keep a secret?
Will my HIV status be a burden to my children?
How should I prepare to tell them? (Perm planning,
education, resources)
Talking to your children about HIV
Status
Emotions
Overwhelmed
Fear
Anxiety
Guilt
Support
Doctor
Social Worker
Family
Friends
Church
Disclosure
Decisions to disclose HIV status depend on several
factors:
How long a person has been positive
Access to social and emotional resources
The nature of the relationship between the person with
HIV/AIDS and the person being disclosed to
Telling children they are HIV+
Why do you want you
children to know
HIV-related questions
and answers
Resources and
Information
Age –appropriate
Information little by
little as they are ready
Cognitive age vs.
Physical Age
Open communication
and non judgment
Prepare to talk about
sexual health
Feelings of isolation,
anger, depression
Ask for help
Disclosure is a
private/family manner
Telling Children you are HIV+
How will your children
react?
Children will ask about
your health
What will happen to
them if you get sick?
How did you get it? Will
they get it?
Might have no questions
at all
Your children might
already know something
May be angry about the
secrets
Open communication is
key
Use this as an
opportunity to educate
Encourage them to talk
to you and others if
needed
Taking care of yourself
It is important to keep doctors
appointments and take medications
You are a better parent if you are healthy
Important to deal with feelings and
questions
Support groups and peer groups can be
helpful
Talk to your social worker/counselor
Preparation for Disclosure
Role Play with your Social Worker
Rehearse different sceneries
Have support systems and resources available
Permanency Planning and Legal in Place
Standby Guardianships
Living Wills
Power of Attorney
Support Groups and Peer Support
Individual, Family, and Children
Permanency Planning and Case
Management
Part of Check list (housing, mental health, etc)
Empowerment
Permanency Planning for all parents and caregivers
Positive decision
Normalize the decision
Social Worker’s Role
Level 1: No involvement
Level 2: Working with Family Before and After
Disclosure but not present at event
Level 3: Present at disclosure for support but not involved with event
Level 4: Participates in disclosure event but does not lead
Level 5: Leads the disclosure discussion
Level 6: Social Worker/Doctor discloses status of child or parent
Case Study: Rochelle
Case Study: Samantha
Tips
Deal with your own feelings first
Have answers to anticipated questions
Build a strong parent-child relationship
Seek support for yourself and children
Gather HIV-related information and resources
Create an appropriate environment for disclosure:
No interruptions
Relaxed as Possible’
Social Worker involvement (Level)
Remember to follow up and that it is a process
Give love, reassurance and hugs!!
Resources
Bauman, L. J. et al, (2007). Children of Mothers With HIV/AIDS: Unmet Needs for
Mental Health Services. Pediatrics, 120 (5), pp. 1141- 1146.
Cichocki, M. (2009, Jan. 10). How to Tell Your Children You Have HIV or AIDS. (chap.
Health’s Disease and Condition) Retrieved Nove. 23, 2011, from
http://aids.about.com/od/hivseniors/a/aginghly.htm
Cogwill, B. O. et al, (2008). Fears About HIV Transmission in Families With an HIVInfected Parent: A Qualitative Analysis. Pediatrics, 122 (5), pp. 950-956.
Kalichman, S.C. (2007, Nov). HIV/AIDS Case Managers and Client HIV Status
Disclosure: Perceived Client Needs, Practices, and Services. Health & Social Work. 33(4),
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Kennedy, D. P, B. Cogwill, et al (2010). Parents’ Disclosure of Their HIV Infection to Their
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Mahanes, J. (2011, Jun. 16). D.C. HIV/AIDS Rate Still At Epidemic Levels. Washington City
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www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/citydesk/2011/16/d-chivaids.
World Health Organization (2011). Guideline on HIV Disclosure Counseling For Children
Up to 12 Years of Age. [Manual/Programme]. Geneva, Switzerland: WHO Press