The Power of Nice – Carol Lensing (Powerpoint Slides)
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The Power of Nice
Book by Linda Kaplan Thaler & Robin Koval
“How to conquer the world with kindness”
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Introductions/Acknowlegments
My Journey
Makeup of audience
Welcome
Objective: To share and hopefully assist you in your
important work everyday as a SAM/Principal team or
someone who supports Pre-school-12 education
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When you hear the word “nice” what
do you think of?
Meet the Parents video clip
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Common Views of Nice
“Nice guys/gals finish last”
“No good deed goes unpunished”
“Me vs. You philosophy wins the day”
“Nice people don’t get the corner office”
“Nice is consider wimpy, passive, pollyanna
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What does it really mean?
Nice is not being naïve
Nice does not mean others walk all over you
Nice does not mean being a doormat
Todd Whitaker– “Treat everyone as if they are good”
“Nice is the toughest four-letter word you’ll even hear- it
means moving forward with confidence from knowing that
being nice and placing others’ needs on same level as your
own will get you everything you want”
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Jim Sorenson- “Fierce
Conversations”
Can you be “nice” and still have those fierce conversations?
Absolutely
We can and should have fierce conversations at times
Our careers, our schools, our districts succeed or fail gradually
and then suddenly, one conversation at a time
The conversation IS the relationship (we build emotional capital
through deposits or withdrawals all day long)
All conversations are with myself and sometimes they involve
other people.
My experience last night (airline)
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Six Power of Nice Principles
Positive impressions are like seeds- Importance of how people are greeted
each time they come into your school
You never know – Chris L., health care, etc.
Small gestures and actions can have an enormous impact
Negative impressions are like germs-- poison
No idea who might become important to you 10, 20, 30 years from now
Nice must be automatic– Make it part of who you are
Treat everyone you meet as if they are the most important person in the worldbecause they are
People change
Lays the groundwork for many opportunities down the road
Impressions are in the eye of the beholder
You will know
Value niceness, in yourself and in others, the same way we respect intelligence, beauty,
or talent
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Nice Tools
Exercise your niceness muscles
Be a “best supporting actor”
Model yourself after the kind of person you admire
Hold a networking party (e.g., SAM conf.)
Make a difference (pass it on)
Throw out the scorecard
Flash a smile
Mimic the masters (make others laugh)
Offer a sweet
Say something genuinely nice to the person who irritates you the most
List your fiercest rivals- think of one thing you can do to help that person
Designate one day a week as a “gossip free” day
Go on a truth diet
Have the courage to be honest
Take off your mask
Play “and then what will happen”
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Mimic the Masters
Make others laugh
Video clips: Lucille Ball, Change Therapy, Snow
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Become an active audience member
Find the “yes” in the “no”
Mark Shellinger--- validate, a thousand yeses, solution
Zip your lip and listen to others
Honor your debts- Those who got you to where you are
Irritation is the mother of invention (find solutions to complaints
of others)
Star in someone else’s movie
Find the feeling
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Finish the Following Sentences…
“Honor Your Debts”
I never would have made it to where I am without….
I owe a great debt to….
I take courage from….
My greatest teacher was…..
Share with a partner!
None of us gets ahead on our own!!
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Most Important Skill for Anyone Who
Wants to Harness the Power of Nice
Ability to put yourself in someone else’s place
Empathetic people are superb at recognizing and meeting the
needs of clients, customers, and subordinates.
They seem approachable
They listen
They praise others for their successes
They try to see the other person’s “movie”
Remember the words of Todd Whitaker– Treat everyone as if
they are good (even if you know they aren’t always)
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Leadership is the art of getting
others to do something that you
want done because they want to do
it. Dwight D. Eisenhower
Video–
Leadership Lessons From the Dancing
Guy-YouTube
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