融汇模式

The ConneXions Model

设计 Design 程序 Process 目标 Goal

Spiritual 谦卑 Relational 谦卑 Experiential 谦卑 Instructional 谦卑

Spiritual Experiential Relational Instructional

Spiritual Experiential Relational Instructional

Spiritual Experiential Relational Instructional

• 默想 Meditate on Phil. 2:3 — 11, 1 Pet. 5:5, 1 Cor. 4:7, • • 熟记 Memorize Matt 23:12.

默想和记下回应 Meditate and journal on your response. • 告诉一个人你自己的骄傲脸孔有多 丑陋 Tell another person how the ugly face of pride shows itself in your life.

• 请一个人改正你 Invite someone to offer you correction.

S R

• 像他人认罪 Confess your sin to another person • 在家里，教会，职场服事一个人。 Serve one person in each of the three groups: family, church, workplace or neighborhood.

E I

• 观察降服在耶稣脚下的人物 Look at the lives of all the people who were at the feet of Jesus: Study 1 Pet. 5:5 — 7, • 阅读有关谦卑人物的自传 Read the biography of a person who is an example of humility.

Healthy marriage relationship

Communication skills/active listening training Teaching on true submission Love & respect DVD 5 Love Languages Premarital counseling Attend marriage seminars Thematic Bible study Family of orientation study Forgiveness teaching (James 5) For men only & For women only -Power of praying wife/husband -Study 1 Corinthians 7 -Courtship after marriage

Seed I

Healthy marriage relationship

Trust walk Retreat Have Children Figure out responsibilities Experience / deal with friction Kissing and intercourse Debriefing conflicts, etc Travel together One hug a day Celebrate anniversary Love dare

Soil

Healthy marriage relationship

Weekly time of confession to spouse about failing in our relationship Weekly dates – with spouse only / with couples Mentor couples Spend time with each others family Submitting to one another Find 10 low/no cost activities. Do two weekly Husband meet with older men every 2 weeks Wife meet wit older women every 2 weeks Offer to give wife one day off / month -look after kids, clean etc Read together “Saving Your Marriage” Bless one another

R Soil

Healthy marriage relationship

Meditate and journal on Eph. 5:22-33 – pray for insight on how to respond, obey Seek God for family vision every Sunday night, pray together about: children, neighbors, daily life, daily decisions, larger decisions, his will Thank God and bless each other: - for spouse, special character qualities - praying together, out loud, with our eyes open Fast to grow in honesty, pray during meal times, fast one lunch per week asking God to use marriage Daily devotional time as a couple

S Soil

孕育意见的苗圃 A Seedbed of Ideas

融汇模式

The ConneXions Model

设计 Design 程序 Process 目标 Goal

你觉得她和以前有什 么不一样吗？

Do you observe any difference in her

？

What is our business in church?

Change life and change culture.

How do you do it?

There are many ways.

How are you doing now?

神看他所造的一切都很好。

God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.

在白色的大宝座前，死了的人都 凭着这些案卷所记载的，照他们 所行的受审判。

启 20:12 The dead were judged according to what they had done as recorded in the books. Rev. 20:12 (NIV)

对于管家的要求，就是要他忠心。

林前4:2 Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful. 1 Cor. 4:2 (NIV)

不是你们拣选了我，是我拣选了你 们；并且分派你们去结果子，叫你 们的果子常存

，

约15:16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit--fruit that will last. John 15:16 (NIV)

有如才干的比喻（太25:14-30），我 们的义务是把资源投放在有许多回报 和成功的地方。

Like the parable of the talents (Matt. 25:14 30), our job is to invest our resources where the return are manifold and where we can have success.

Evaluation Concept #1 Old Paradigm New Paradigm Do good things with good people

与好人做好事

A clear purpose.

明确的目标

Evaluation Concept #2 Good Even Better

Competencies 才干 Whole person 全人

Holistic Evaluation 全方位的评估 Spiritual life, family life, character and vision?

属灵生活，家庭生活，品格和异象？

Evaluation Concept #3 True Can’t see spiritual life or character.

看不见属灵生命 和品格 Also True See actions or fruits 可以看见属灵生 命的果子和行为

Indicators in New Testament 新约的指示 耶稣 见 他们的 信心 ，就对瘫子说：“你的罪赦了。” When Jesus saw their faith , He said, “Friend, your sins are forgiven.” (Luke 5:20) 凭着他们的 果子 ，就可以认出他们来。 Ye shall know them by their fruits … (Matt. 7:16)

Indicators in New Testament 新约的指示 我便藉着我的 行为 ，将我的 信心 指给你 看。 …I will show you my faith by what I do . (Jam. 2:18)

Evaluation Concept #4 Good

Results 结果

Even Better

Design Process Results 设计，程序，结果

Evaluation Concept #5 Good Even Better Separate event 分别事件 Integrated

整体

Evaluation Concept #6 Naïve Filling in a form 填写表格 Realistic Relational Listening

关系性 聆听

Evaluation Concept #7 Appropriate Satisfy stakeholders 满足老板 Even Better Strategic and developmental tool

策略性的工具

Evaluation Concept #8 Negative

Score card 记分卡

Positive

Friend 朋友

Strategy 设计 Implementation 执行 Purpose 目的

培养更多健康领袖是教会中每 一个在职领袖的

核心责任

To build more healthy leaders is a responsibility core of every existing leader in the church.

教导他人作领袖，并建立起一 个当他不在时仍然能健康运作、 蓬勃发展的群体

。

He teaches others to be leaders and builds a community that can continue to be healthy and to thrive when he himself is not around.

我实实在在地告诉你们，我所做的事，信我 的人也要做；并且要做比这更大的事，因为 我往父那里去。

约14:12 Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do he will do also; and greater works than these he will do, because I go to My Father. John 14:12

这是一个真正的伟大领袖的心愿：

培养一代完全胜过自己的领袖 ！

This is the desire of the truly great leader: to build other leaders who will entirely outdo him!

你在许多见证人面前听我所教训的，也要 交托那忠心能教导别人的人。

提后2:2 And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others. 2 Tim. 2:2

There is no success without successor

EVENTS

活動

1. Motivate people

激勵人

2. Are a calendar issue

有關日期的事件

3. Challenge participants 7 . Easy

容易 挑戰參與者

4. Usually about a big group

通常是一大群

5. Encourage decisions 6. Become a catalyst

鼓勵決定 成為催化劑

PROCESS

程序

1. Matures people

使人成熟

2. Is a consistency issue

一致性的事

3. Changes participants

改變參與者

4. Usually about a small group

通常是一個小組

5. Encourages development

鼓勵發展

6. Becomes a culture

成為一個文化

7. Difficult

困難

EVENTS

活動

Motivate people Are a calendar issue

激勵人 有關日期的事件

Challenge participants

挑戰參與者

Usually about a big group Easy

容易 通常是一大群

Encourage decisions Become a catalyst

鼓勵決定 成為催化劑

PROCESS

程序

Matures people

使人成熟

Is a consistency issue

一致性的事

Changes participants

改变参与者

Usually about a small group

通常是一个小组

Encourages development

鼓励发展

Becomes a culture

成為一个文化

Difficult

困难

Early Adopters 13% Innovators 3% Middle Adopters

34% Wait and see attitude

Late Adopters 34% Laggards 16%

Complacent

福音使命

Gospel mandate

文化使命

Cultural mandate

爱上帝和爱人如己

Love God and love people as yourself