Transcript Teenage Drinking and Pregnancy

TEENAGE DRINKING
AND PREGNANCY
Presented by
Penni Cox
Psychologist
0799687845
and
Roxy Garvey
Occupational Therapist
0723697368
OUTCOMES
• Be informed of the latest trends in drinking and
sexuality in Bergvliet High School and in South Africa
• Become more engaged and relevant in the world of
their adolescent
• Be empowered to set appropriate boundaries and
follow through with them
• Feel a sense of togetherness with other parents and
staff of Bergvliet High School when addressing these
issues
STATISTICS
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1 in 2 teenagers is a user of alcohol. Teenagers that use alcohol are 3 times more
likely to be involved in violent crime²
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There were 160 754 teenage pregnancies recorded between July 2008 and June
2010 in South Africa¹
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90% of children between 8 and 16 that have internet access have viewed
pornography online-often by mistake ¹
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22% of teenage girls (almost 1 in 4) and 20 % of boys (1 in 5) have sent
inappropriate images of themselves using cellphones ¹
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1 in 6 pupils tested positive for illegal steroid use at 18 of South Africa’s top
schools¹
References:
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Rape Wise, www.rapewise.co.za, accessed March 2013
2.
SAB, www.sab.co.za, accessed March 2013
WHY DO TEENAGERS USE ALCOHOL?
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For the experience and fun
Escapism and self-medication
Boredom
Rebellion
Everybody’s doing it
Instant Gratification
Lack of confidence
Misinformation
Parental cues
WHY DO TEENAGERS HAVE SEX?
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For the experience and fun
Everybody’s doing it
Peer pressure and social acceptance
Low self-esteem
Misunderstanding of love
Rebellion
Misinformation
LINGO
GF - Girlfriend
MOS - Mom over shoulder
RUH - Are you horny?
BF - Boyfriend
ILY - I love you
DUM - Do you masturbate?
BFF - Best friend forever
143 - I love you
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BRB - Be right back
182 - I hate you
MEZRU - I am easy, are you?
AFK - Back at keyboard
ASL - Age/sex/location
IWSN - I want sex now
CD9 - Code 9 - parents are
around
LMIRL - Let's meet in real life
TDTM - Talk dirty to me
RU/18 - Are you over 18
GNOC - Get naked on camera
KPC - Keeping parents clueless
GYPO - Get your pants off
KFY - Kiss for you (also K4Y)
NIFOC - Nude in front of
the computer
PIR - Parent in room
PRW - Parents are watching
(also PAW)
POS - Parent over
shoulder
DOS - Dad over shoulder
Banana - Penis
Oral sex
FB - F **** buddy
THE TWO-HEADED APPROACH
YOUR CHILD
DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOUR
TIPS FOR ADDRESSING SOCIAL NETWORKING
• Its never about the technology its about the communication.
• Be open about the boundaries that you are putting in place and
stick to them
• Teenager hand in technology before they go to bed
• Communal area for computers
• Ask to see the friends list of your child’s social networks
• Limit the time your teenager can go on the internet
• Discuss ways to keep safe and consequences of poor internet
use
WEBSITES ADDRESSING INTERNET SAFETY
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OnguardOnline.gov
Wiredsaftey.org
Commonsense.com
Ncmec.org
TRUSTe.org
Connectsafely.org
NetSmartz.org
WebWiseKids.org
GUIDELINES FOR ADDRESSING ALCOHOL USE
• First decide where your boundaries lie as a parent around alcohol
• Talk to your child about the boundaries
• Make sure that you or someone you trust drops off and fetches
your child
• Be sure have verbal conversations with other parents when
making plans
• Set a curfew and give consequences for not sticking to it
• Only allow sleep overs when you know and trust the parents
• You must be awake when your child gets home or they must wake
you up
IF YOUR CHILD COMES HOME DRUNK:
• Stay calm
• Don’t see you child as an alcoholic
• Talk to them in the morning – no use when they are
intoxicated
• In the mean time talk to your spouse or support system and
agree on a course of action
• Talk to them assertively
– Tell them how you feel
– Don’t condone behaviour but value the person
– Reinforce why you are concerned
• Talk about the extent of your child’s use
• Enforce consequences
• Provide opportunity for restoration and forgiveness
GUIDELINES FOR ADDRESSING SEX
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Nurture a healthy relationship with your child.
Give information openly and honestly
Don’t avoid questions
Don’t allow personal questions about your sexuality
Lead by example
Issues about pornography should be openly discussed
Don’t over-react when it comes to a child’s sexual
experimentation
• Address prevention of pregnancy and STI’s
IF YOUR CHILD TELLS YOU SHE IS PREGNANT:
• Stay calm
• Seek Crisis Pregnancy counselling to make an
informed decision from a calm space
• Keep the school informed
• Keep your child in school
“We have to care for suffering with extreme
reverence so that in our fear and anger at the
beast, we do not overlook the star”
Thomas Moore
Presentation based on experience working with
teenagers and their families and the following
sources:
1. Rape Wise, www.rapewise.co.za, accessed
March 2013
2. SAB, www.sab.co.za, accessed March 2013