Transcript Arlington County Department of Human Services

ARLINGTON COUNTY
DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN SERVICES- BHD
VIOLENCE INTERVENTION PROGRAM
Domestic Violence and
Sexual Assault Services
Araceli Covarrubias, MA
Mental Health Therapist
VIOLENCE INTERVENTION PROGRAM
Who we are:
We are experts in the field of domestic violence and sexual assault.
We work with survivors, friends, and family members.
We provide:
Individual & group counseling for victims/survivors
Crisis Intervention/Safety Planning
Support and Information
Joint Protective and Violence Intervention
Spanish Speaking Counselors
Outreach/Community education for adults and adolescents
Training/consultation for allied professionals
Group counseling program for Abusers (Spanish/English)
Court and/or Hospital Accompaniment
Services are Confidential
VIOLENCE INTERVENTION PROGRAM
Staff:
Maurice Hendrix, Coordinator (703) 228-1513
Araceli Covarrubias, Bilingual Therapist/Spanish (703) 228-1516
Marie Michaud, Therapist(703) 228-1517
Ilene Segal, Therapist & Volunteer Coordinator (703) 228-1514
Front Desk: (703) 228-1200
8:30am – 6pm
After Hours & Weekends: (703) 228-4848
www.arlingtonva.us/vip
2100 Washington Blvd. 2nd Floor, Sequoia Plaza
Arlington, VA 22204
OVERVIEW
 Introduction
to
Domestic Violence
 Prevalence
 Types of Abuse
 Dynamics of Abuse
 Cultural
Implications
 Red
Flags/ How to
recognize potential
DV victims
 Intervention
Strategies
 Safety Planning
 Community
Resources
PREVALENCE- STATS FROM VA ACTION
ALLIANCE
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Domestic Violence Services 1/1/11 - 12/31/11
Emergency Shelter
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Adults in Emergency Shelter 3,825
Children in Emergency Shelter 2,784
Nights of Emergency Shelter Provided to Adults 109,765
Nights of Emergency Shelter Provided to Children 93,260
Total Nights of Emergency Shelter Provided 203,025
Total Requests for Shelter When Shelter Was Full 3,100
Transitional Housing Services
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Number of Adults Housed 174
Number of Children Housed 175
Nights of Housing Provided to Adults 47,729
Nights of Housing Provided to Children 48,449
Total Nights of Housing Provided 96,178
TYPES OF ABUSE
Physical
Emotional
Economic
Sexual
Verbal
Legal
Status
POWER AND CONTROL WHEEL
USED WITH PERMISSION FROM THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INTERVENTION PROJECT,
DULUTH, MINNESOTA
EQUALITY WHEEL
USED WITH PERMISSION FROM THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INTERVENTION PROJECT,
DULUTH, MINNESOTA
Denial &
Hope
CULTURAL POWER & CONTROL WHEEL
USED WITH PERMISSION FROM THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INTERVENTION PROJECT,
DULUTH, MINNESOTA
WHY DO WOMEN STAY
INFORMATION FROM WWW.DOMESTICVIOLENCE.ORG AND
WWW.TURNINGPOINTSERVICES.ORG
He will threaten to
leave me.
 He said he will, “ Hunt
me down and kill me.”
 He will kidnap the
children and disappear.
 He will spread horrible
rumors about me.
 I will never be safe, I
might as well live with
him.
 She will “out” me at
work or to my family.
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Roles Culture Forces
Upon Women:
 Guilt
 I will ruin his life if I
leave.
 He will lose his job if I
report this.
 He will start drinking
again.
 I will disappoint my
family.
 I have to take care of
him.
WHY DO WOMEN STAY
INFORMATION FROM WWW.DOMESTICVIOLENCE.ORG AND
WWW.TURNINGPOINTSERVICES.ORG
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Economic Dependence
He has all the money.
I have never had a good job. How will I care for kids alone?
Better to be beaten up at home that to be on the street.
I would rather die than be on welfare.
Subordination
I am afraid to be on my own. Who will protect me?
I fear that I will never be in a relationship again.
He gives me a sense of security.
I don’t want to be a divorced woman.
EFFECTS OF DV ON WOMEN
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Depression
Anxiety
Substance abuse
Eating disorders
Emotionally numb
Sleep disorders
Suicide attempts
Unable to respond to their children’s needs
Feelings of hopelessness/helplessness
EFFECTS OF DV ON CHILDREN
HOW TO RECOGNIZE POTENTIAL VICTIMSRELATIONSHIP QUIZ
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Do you feel nervous or fearful in your relationship?
Are you afraid of your partner's temper?
Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid
his/her anger? Do you feel like you are always “walking on
eggshells”?
Are you afraid to say “No” to sex?
Do you feel powerless in your relationship?
Are you scared of disagreeing with him/her?
Are you afraid to break up with your partner?
Does s/he criticize you, or humiliate you in front of other
people?
Has s/he ever scared you with violence or threatening
behavior?
Does s/he tell you what to wear, or how to do your hair?
Does s/he prevent you from going out or doing things you
want to do?
RELATIONSHIP QUIZ- CONT’D
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Does s/he check up on you or question you about what you
do without him/her?
Does s/he act controlling?
Does s/he repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing
other guys/women?
Does s/he tell you that if you changed s/he wouldn't abuse
you?
Does s/he act jealous of the time you spend with other
people?
Does s/he make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy,
or inadequate?
Does s/he call you names?
Does s/he ignore your feelings?
Has s/he ridiculed your most valued beliefs, your religion,
race, class or sexual preference?
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Do you feel that, with him/her, nothing you do is ever good
enough?
Does s/he say that s/he will kill or hurt herself/himself if
you break up with him/her?
Does s/he make excuses for his/her abusive behavior by
saying it's because of alcohol or drugs or because s/he can't
control his/her temper, or that s/he was 'just joking'?
Does s/he hate spending time with your family and keep
you from seeing your friends and family?
Does s/he withhold approval, appreciation or affection as
punishment?
Has s/he manipulated you with lies?
Has s/he taken your car keys or money away?
Has s/he subjected you to reckless driving?
RED FLAGS
USED WITH PERMISSION FROM THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INTERVENTION PROJECT,
DULUTH, MINNESOTA
Question a relationship with partners who:
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abuse alcohol or other drugs.
have a history of trouble with
the law, gets into fights, or
break and destroy property.
don’t work or go to school.
abuse siblings, other family
members, children or pets.
put down people, including
your family and friends, or call
them names excessively.
are always angry at someone
or something.
try to isolate you and control
who you see or where you go.
accuse you of flirting or
“coming on” to others or accuse
you of cheating on them.
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don’t listen to you or show
interest in your opinions or
feelings. . .things always have
to be done their way.
lie to you, don’t show up for
dates, maybe even disappear
for days.
blame all arguments and
problems on you
threaten suicide if you break up
with them.
experience extreme mood
swings -tell you you’re the
greatest one minute and rip
you apart the next minute.
tell you to shut up or tell you
you’re dumb, stupid, fat, or call
you some other name (directly
or indirectly).
RED FLAGS (CONT’D)
USED WITH PERMISSION FROM THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INTERVENTION PROJECT,
DULUTH, MINNESOTA
Some other cues that might indicate an abusive
relationship might include:
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you feel afraid to break up
with them.
you feel tied down, feel like
you have to check-in.
you feel afraid to make
decisions or bring up
certain subjects so that the
other person won’t get mad.
you tell yourself that if you
just try harder and love your
partner enough that
everything will be just fine.
worse over time.
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you find yourself crying
a lot, being depressed
or unhappy.
you find yourself
worrying and obsessing
about how to please
your partner and keep
them happy.
you find the physical or
emotional abuse
getting
INTERVENTION STRATEGIES
Provide Pyschoeducation- DV 101
 Let the client know that the Domestic Violence is
NOT their fault
 Provide information on Safety Planning & their
options (e.g. shelters)
 Do not tell the client to leave, but explore &
assess risks frequently
 Do not talk poorly about the aggressor
 Teach coping skills, encourage self care,
encourage independence (financial, etc)
 Validate their experience
 Provide education on depression, anxiety and
potential PTSD
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RISK ASSESSMENT
DR. CAMPBELL’S DANGER ASSESSMENT TOOL
COPYRIGHT 2004 JOHNS HOPKINS UNIVERSITY, SCHOOL OF
NURSING
This tool was developed in an effort to try and
predict which domestic abuse situations could be
lethal.
 There are 2 components to the danger/lethality
assessment tool:
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1.) Completing a calendar for the past year using the
scale as indicated on the tool to denote the degree of
violence
 2.) Completing the list of 20 questions
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See Danger Assessment forms
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SAFETY PLANNING
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Talk to people you trust about the violence you are
experiencing
Tell neighbors about the abuse and ask them to call 911 if they
see/hear the abuse occurring, develop a signal, such as
flicking the porch light or saying a code word that can alert
neighbors/friends to call 911
Gather important documents, such as birth certificates, social
security cards, insurance information, legal papers, children’s
school records, bank account information.
Put money aside in advance
Pack extra clothing for yourself and your children; include a
few of your child’s favorite toys
Teach children to phone 911 when or before violence starts
RESOURCES
NORTHERN VIRGINIA
Alexandria Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence
Program- Hotline: (703) 746-5030, Residential
Shelter, Emergency Accompaniment
 Arlington County Violence Intervention ProgramHotline: (703) 228-4848, Emergency
Accompaniment
 Doorways Domestic Violence Program- Hotline:
(703) 237-0881
 Court Advocate , (703) 244-5165, M-F 9-5
 Fairfax County Office for Women Domestic &
Sexual Violence Services- Hotline: (703) 360-7273,
Residential Shelter, Accompaniment
 Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action
Alliance, (800) 838-8238
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RESOURCES
DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA
DC Coalition Against Domestic Violence,
(202) 299-1181
 Asian/ Pacific Islander Domestic Violence
Resource Project (DVRP), (202) 464-4477
 Survivors and Advocates for Empowerment
(SAFE), (202)408-1476
 House of Ruth, (202) 667-7001
 My Sister’s Place, Inc, (202) 529-5261,
Residential Shelter
 Ramona’s Way, (202) 561-3000
 Deaf Abused Women’s Network (DAWN),
(202) 559-5366
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RESOURCES
MARYLAND
Abused Persons Program, Hotline: (240)777-4195
(days), (240)777-4673 (After Business Hours),
Montgomery County
 Family Crisis Center of Prince George’s County,
Inc, Hotline: (866) 382-7474 or (301) 731-1203
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Questions?