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Five Positions of Control
Diane Gossen
Five Positions of Control
 Punisher
 Guilter
 Buddy
 Monitor
 Manager
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Punisher
Adult
Does
Yells and Points
Adult
Says
If you don't do
it I'll....
Legacy
Rebel
Blame
Youth
Says
I don't care
Youth
Outcome
Repeat Offense
R
Guilter
Adult
Does
Preaches and
Shoulds
Adult
Says
You should have
known better
Legacy
Youth
Says
Hide Deny Lie
I'm sorry
Youth
Low self-esteem
Outcome
R
Buddy
Adult
Does
Makes excuses
for them
Adult
Says
Do it for me
Legacy
Youth
Says
Youth
Dependency
I thought you
were my friend
Weakness
Outcome
R
Monitor
Adult
Does
Counts and
Measures
Adult
Says
What's the rule?
Legacy
Conformity
Youth
Says
How high,
How far?
Youth
Outcome
Consequence
oriented
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Manager
Adult
Does
Asks
Questions
Adult
Says
What do
you believe?
Legacy
Strengthen
Youth
Says
What can I do
to fix it?
Youth
Self restitution
Outcome
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WHO WOULD SAY….?
Work with a partner or in a small group. Think about
who would say the following questions and
statements.
PUNISHER
GUILTER
BUDDY
MONITOR
MANAGER
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







Did you break your promise? Shame on you.
You will never be a success in life.
Come on. Please do it.
You’ll have a pizza party if you fill the jar.
Why didn’t you finish it? It makes me sad.
You’re so stupid.
How can you make this right with her?
You’ll get free time if you are done first.
What does it say about you if you fix it?
I thought you were my friend.
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ACADEMY AWARDS
1. Choose a scenario to act out from
home, school, coaching, etc. (2 or 3
sentences). This is not a three act
play. Have fun - you have 10
minutes.
2. Play it five different ways: punisher,
guilter, buddy, monitor, manager.
3. Watch for contamination of the
words of one position and the tone
or position of another (eg. asking
“What do we believe” in a harsh
voice).
4. Academy Awards: Mix up the
positions and act each out for
another group to see if they can
guess it.
R
R
You should
have known
better
Hide
Deny
Lie
I’m sorry
Low selfesteem
If you don’t do
it I’ll...
Rebel
Blame
I don’t care
Repeat offense
Teacher
Says
Legacy
Student
Says
Student
Outcome
I thought
you were
my friend
Weakness
Dependency
Makes
excuses for
them
Do it for me
BUDDY
Consequence
oriented
How high, how
far?
INTRINSIC
MOTIVATION
What can
I do to fix
it?
Self
restitution
What do
we
believe?
Strengthen
What’s the
rule?
Conformity
Asks
questions
MANAGER
Self
Counts and
Measures
MONITOR
Reward from Others
E X T R I N S I C M O T I VAT I O N
Preaches and
“Shoulds”
Yells and
Points
GUILTER
Teacher
Does
PUNISHER
Avoid Pain
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