Transcript Effective Discipline Techniques PowerPoint

Effective Discipline Techniques for
Parents
October 19, 2010
Presented by Beverly R. Robinson
Ways to Help Children Become
Emotionally Healthy
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Explaining
Touching
Hugging
Listening
Being honest
Being open
Being together
Trusting
Setting limits
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Respecting
Fostering independence
Not judging
Encouraging
Returning feelings
Supporting
Empathizing
Teaching
Working together
When you think of disciplining
What do you think of ?
Do you think of ?
Discipline
Discipline is the use of methods to teach
children behavior guidelines.
Teaching these guidelines should begin as
the child begins to move around.
To get along in the world…
• Children need some
basic guidelines for
behavior.
• Adults have the
responsibility to teach
children how to
behave.
• Older brothers and
sisters help by setting
good examples.
Discipline Teaches
• Self-control
• Limits
• Behavior patterns that are acceptable to
society.
It should involve respect, support and
encouragement as well as communication of
limits or boundaries.
Effective discipline should be based on:
Love
and
Understanding
Effective Techniques
Set limits
with rules
Rules are necessary to
protect a child from
danger and set examples
of acceptable behavior.
Everyone is more
confident and comfortable
knowing how to act in a
new situation.
Communication
Tell the child what he or she should do rather
than what they should not do!
Keep explanations simple and brief, they have
limited vocabulary and a limited attention
span.
Be prepared to repeat over and over to
toddlers.
The difficult hostile child is the one who
needs love and guidance the most!
Positive Reinforcement
• Children repeat
the actions they
are praised for!
• Children give up
any actions that
are ignored by
others.
Be Consistent!
Discipline the same way every time
that behavior occurs.
Be Fair!
It may vary from one child to another.
Be Firm!
Stick to your rules.
Rewards
• Reward the good
behavior – don’t only
notice the negative
behavior.
• Be immediate and
direct with discipline
and rewards – hugs are
free!
DO:
• Set good examples and be the role model.
• Discipline on the spot-the child may forget why he/she is
being punished.
• Use timeout-remove the child from the misbehavior- this
should give them time to think about the misbehavior.
• Take away privileges to promote desired behaviorespecially with older children.
• Discipline the behavior-not the child!
• Consider the child’s age and ability. Exploration is common
for toddlers.
• Match the consequence with the crime (misbehavior).
DON’T:
• Rely on physical punishment-use it sparingly!
• Make threats you cannot keep – older children.
• Do not yell – talk to the child and explain why he
or she should or should not do certain things.
• Parents should be in agreement about discipline or
not be in disagreement in front of the child.
Negative Reinforcement
Punishment
• It tends to discourage the behavior with
which it is associated.
• Punishment should not take the place of
encouragement and clearly stated limits.
• It can be part of positive and effective
discipline, when used with good judgment.
Adolescence
Parents must make clear and sensible rules about
many areas of concern for teenagers:
• Driving
• Using drugs, alcohol, and tobacco
• Dating
• Use of technology
• Choosing friends and activities with friends during
“free” time
• Curfews
Adolescence
• The same rules for disciplining children apply to
adolescents. The tone was set as children.
• Adolescents want the rules and consequences to be fair.
• They want to be respected as a young adult.
• But, they must understand their parents rules and
consequences, in advance.
• Take away privileges: cell phone, driving, party or friends.
Effective Discipline Techniques
Beverly R. Robinson
[email protected]