Transcript Stuart Saves His Family

Stuart Saves His Family
Stuart Saves His Family
STEVE FRANKLIN, M.S.W., L.C.S.W.
6829 Gravois Ave.
St. Louis, MO 63116
www.SteveFranklinMSW.com
314-517-8383
FAX 203-738-4036
[email protected]
Stuart Saves His Family
• Introduction: Steve Franklin, MSW, LCSW
• Movie
• Chris Clark, Artistic Director
Cinema Saint Louis ( CinemaStLouis.org )
• Dan Duncan, NCADA ( ncada-stl.org/ )
• Steve Franklin, moderating Q&A and
audience comments
Stuart Saves His Family
Based on Saturday Night Live character
Created and Performed by
(Senator) Al Franken
Adapted from his book:
Stuart Saves His Family
I'm Good Enough,
I'm Smart Enough,
and Doggone It,
People Like Me!
Daily Affirmations With Stuart Smalley.
Stuart Saves His Family
Stuart is a member of several
“12-Step Groups”
Stuart Saves His Family
Programs designed to
help people recover from
addiction, compulsion,
or other behavioral problems…
Based on the principles of
Alcoholics Anonymous
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Step 1 - Powerless
2 - Greater Power
3 – Decide to turn over problems
4 - Searching and fearless moral inventory
5 - Admit to our wrongs
6 –Ready to have God remove defects
• Step 7 - Ask God to remove shortcomings
• 8 - List of persons we harmed,
willing to make amends
• 9 - Made amends wherever possible
• 10 - Promptly admitted new wrongs
• 11 - Conscious contact with God as we
understood God
• 12- Carry this message to other addicts
12-Step Groups
• AA - Alcoholics Anonymous
STL: http://www.aastl.org/index.php
http://www.aastl.org/search_bb.php
• ACA - Adult Children of Alcoholics
http://www.adultchildren.org/
http://allone.com/12/aca/
• Al-Anon/Alateen, friends/family of alcoholics
http://www.missouri-al-anon.org/
http://www.missouri-al-anon.org/where&when.html
• CA - Cocaine Anonymous
http://www.ca.org/ http://www.camissouri.org/
http://www.camissouri.org/meetings3.php
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CLA - Clutterers Anonymous
CMA - Crystal Meth Anonymous
http://www.crystalmeth.org/
http://www.crystalmeth.org/find-a-cma-meeting/cma-meeting-search.html
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Co-Anon, for friends and family of addicts
CoDA - Co-Dependents Anonymous,
for people working to end patterns of dysfunctional relationships
and develop functional and healthy relationships
http://www.coda.org/
http://www.coda.org/ajax_control.php?action=load_translation&language=1
• COSA - formerly Codependents of Sex Addicts
• COSLAA - CoSex and Love Addicts Anonymous
• DA - Debtors Anonymous
http://www.debtorsanonymous.org/
http://www.debtorsanonymous.org/admin/index.php/find
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DRA – Dual Recovery Anonymous
http://draonline.org/
http://draonline.org/meetings.html
• EA - Emotions Anonymous; mental and emotional illness
http://www.emotionsanonymous.org/
http://allone.com/12/ea/
• EHA - Emotional Health Anonymous
• FA - Families Anonymous-relatives/friends of addicts
http://familiesanonymous.org/
• FA - Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous
http://www.foodaddicts.org/
http://foodaddicts.org/meetings.php
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FAA - Food Addicts Anonymous
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GA - Gamblers Anonymous
http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/
http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/locations
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Gam-Anon/Gam-A-Teen—friends/family members
of problem gamblers
• HA - Heroin Anonymous
http://www.heroin-anonymous.org/
http://www.heroin-anonymous.org/HApage2.html
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MA - Marijuana Anonymous
http://www.marijuana-anonymous.org/
http://www.marijuana-anonymous.org/meetings
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NA - Narcotics Anonymous
http://www.na.org/
http://www.na.org/?ID=home-content-fm
• Nar-Anon-friends/family members of addicts
http://nar-anon.org/Nar-Anon/Nar-Anon_Home.html
http://nar-anon.org/Nar-Anon/Meetings.html
• NicA - Nicotine Anonymous
http://www.nicotine-anonymous.org/
http://www.nicotine-anonymous.org/meetings.php
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OA - Overeaters Anonymous
http://www.oa.org/
http://www.oa.org/membersgroups/find-a-meeting/
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OLGA - Online Gamers Anonymous
PA - Pills Anonymous-prescription pill addiction.
SA - Sexaholics Anonymous
http://sa.org/
http://www.orgsites.com/mo/sa-of-st-louis/
• SCA - Sexual Compulsives Anonymous
• SIA - Survivors of Incest Anonymous
http://www.siawso.org/
http://www.siawso.org/Default.aspx?pageId=7166
• SLAA - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
http://www.slaafws.org/
http://www.slaafws.org/meetings
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UA – Under-earners Anonymous
WA - Workaholics Anonymous
I go to Al-Anon,
a 12-step program for
family members and friends of alcoholics.
----Al Franken
Franni Franken: Campaign Ad
When I was struggling with my recovery,
Al stood right by my side
and he stood up for me.
After what we went through,
Al wrote two beautiful movies.
And he wrote them because
he wanted to help people…. “
The other movie:
“When A Man Loves A Woman”,
1994
Al Franken:
One valuable thing I learned in Al-Anon
is that you can learn stuff from people
who aren't necessarily smarter than you.
Which is kind of an obvious thing,
but I didn't understand that.
Al Franken:
I'd be in an Al-Anon meeting and
I'd hear somebody say something
and I'd be very judgmental and say,
"Oh, that person's an idiot,"
and a month later that same person
would say something
that would touch me very deeply.
Al Franken:
I was brought up to do well in school,
and you learn from people who know
more than you, and that's about it.
So Stuart is kind of a character
that people can learn stuff from,
even though he's an idiot.
For every hundred steps forward,
he takes 99 backward,
but he does end up one step ahead.
Al Franken:
There's a part of me that's definitely
Stuart … that's very lame, that worries
I'll never live up to my expectations for
myself and that I'm a lousy father.
I worry about all sorts of stupid things
I don't need to worry about.
I have a real love for Stuart…
And I think what's funny about him
is just externalizing
all this lameness I have inside me."
Questions to Ponder
• How much is Stuart’s family
realistic or an exaggeration?
• Does it feel OK
to laugh at the dysfunction?
• Does Stuart have a clinical psychological
disorder? (Personality Disorder?
PTSD/Trauma? Anxiety Disorder?…???)
Melody Beattie
In all his struggles and innocence and
sincerity, and dedication,
Stuart made me laugh.
He helped me see myself in a new light.
He gave me hope.
He helped me appreciate the Stuart in me.
And that’s okay.
Stuart Saves His Family
"You'll laugh
because it's not your family,
Stuart Saves His Family
"You'll laugh
because it's not your family,
you'll cry
because it is.